When is it too soon to take a chance

You just know. I've been told that it's good to not go back to someone just 'cause they're familiar, but if you do find yourself becoming able to trust again emotionally, then it sounds pretty good to me!

You will know when you are ready.  I went out with someone and it was awkward but felt great. As a good friend said, it is practice dating :-)

I agree- it depends on YOU!  Where are you emotionally?  I know I left my ex a long time before he filed.  I had tried to work things out, but to no avail.  I usually get it back together pretty quickly, so I'm not a good gauge, but I would say, take it easy.....

Just to update everyone - I am legally separated.  NY is not a no-fault state so I will not be legally divorced for another 9 months.  The relationship I am speaking of has not taken a "physical" turn as yet.  Will be quite a while before that happens.

 Its really more about taking the emotional jump - trusting in someone again.

NY does have adultery for grounds for divorce so maybe you better wait until your divorce is final.
If your first boyfriend cares he shouldn't mind waiting until your divorce is final. Go to the white box in the upper right hand corner: state divorce laws and calculators so you can read it for yourself.

Good Morning .. I too agree with the comments here by other members and would caution you, depending in which state you are in, that a relationship before your divorce is final could be seen as adultery if your stbx finds out.

I wish you well in yoru new life and hope it works out well for you

People have been warning me about the "rebound" romance.  I do have a good friend that could develop if given a chance, but I'm so afraid of ruining the friendship that I'm not going there!  I would rather have him as a friend than a fling and then nothing.

Only you will know if you are ready.  What's the rush?  Just enjoy each other right now...and I agree with Jackson....wait until you've filed at least.

Good luck!

I think it's different times for all of us. If you can truly say that you can begin putting your ex behind you and move on, that is a good indicator. You don't want to go into another relationship where you compare and do nothing but talk about the ex and what happened all the time. I think that you are heading in the right direction, being honest and open....and taking it slow.  Best of luck to you!

If you think you are ready, you probably are.  I would wait until you have filed for divorce, (couldnt tell exactly where you are in the process)
while not 100% relevant, here is an article  on people rekindling with thir high school sweety....

As you said, only you can decide when you're ready.  I would definately take this slow and easy, so it looks like you're doing the right thing there.  The big thing is to make sure that you've dealt with your demons in the last relationship. that you've healed, and that you're ready to move on.  August to now isn't that long a time...so I would definately be cautious...be sure you've given yourself time enough to mourn the loss of your marriage and just be honest with yourself first.

Once you've given yourself an honest assessment of where you stand emotionally, then look at him...is he ready?  All that said, you have to gauge for yourself the pace at which you want to go...if you feel comfortable moving on and it feels like the right time, then it is.  If, however, you are having doubts and are confused, then now wouldn't be the right time for you.  It sounds like you know where the "bear traps" are, so to speak, in the relationship minefield...just take it slow and easy, no expectations, and I think you'll be fine.  I would just beware of hopping straight from a marriage right into a steady relationship and ask yourself honestly if you're ready to love and trust again.

I wish you luck with your decision.  Keep us posted!