What do I do about the emotional affairs?

Well my husband has done it again. He has to have a women friend on the side all the time. Of course I never know about it until I snoop and find out. I have told him this must stop and of course he says OK and then gets a new one. I saw where they communicated again today. What do I need to do. Confron him again tonight or hope the contact today was to cut it off. Should I contact her and tell her to stop contacting my husband. This is the 3rd one I've found out about. I need help.

by liar1952 5 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 3:11 PM

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Well it isn't right that he should want to see her without you there. I've had girl "friends" but I always tried to keep it on the up and up. Making sure other people were present, whenever we met or talked, especially my wife. This sounds different. I would make sure he knows this is hurting you. I would also say that counseling is one course that might work. You both need to find a way to work though this if you're going to stay together. If he's not willing to work with you, then you need to ask yourself if he's worth keeping. A marriage is a team effort.

by Robert-Boyd 3885 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 6:18 PM

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Some of her comments are how special he is to her and how grateful she is to him. Also comments like "home alone til 9:00. Call me. " I can't wait to talk to you again. You are my special one. What would you make of these types of comments?

by liar1952 5 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 4:06 PM

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I would seek counseling with your husband, he obviously is getting something from her that he feels he can not get from you. Not necessarily physical needs but could be emotional support, something new, etc. How long have you been married? He needs to not have secret conversations with women. In my opinion an affair is an affair, emotional or physical. It is still dishonesty to the spouse. He needs to communicate with you what his issues are not "the other woman"

by Barkley 912 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 3:27 PM

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is it just emotional? or more? how do you know for sure? if they are just friends, why does it bother you? why is he hiding them? is htere more going on here? i need more info.

by cindy 79 Posts
Posted on 1/3/2008 3:18 PM

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