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which are you? a carrot, an egg or a cup of coffee?

i found this online just now and thought it worked for our d360'ers too.

 

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up.  She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. 

 

Her mother took her to the kitchen.  She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire.  Soon the pots came to boil.  In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.  She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.  

 

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.  

 

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what you see?"  

 

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. 

 

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.  The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.  Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee.  The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. 

 

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

 

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity ...  boiling water.  Each reacted differently. 

 

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting.  However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. 

 

The egg had been fragile.  Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. T

 

he ground coffee beans were unique, however.  After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

 

 "Which are you?" she asked her daughter.  "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?" 

 

Think of this: Which am I?  Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? 

 

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?  Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff?  Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?  

 

Or am I like the coffee bean?  The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.  When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. 

 

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.  When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?  How do you handle adversity? 

 

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

 

 

i found this story here: http://www.hapkido.com/deepthoughts/coffee.htm


by paula1   12664 Posts 
Posted on 1/13/2009 1:14 PM
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i love that - thanks :)
by smartcookie36   200 Posts
Posted on 3/2/2009 5:14 PM
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I loved this most so much I shared it with some of my other divorced friends. Sadly though I will have to say I have been an egg for a very long time now. A cold egg at that *yikes* I am slowly becoming the bean that I used to be when I was younger before all the bad and the bitterness, but it is a difficult journey and for me, being the egg is easier. It is easier for me to keep people out and be alone and do my own thing than it is for me to depend on anybody else for anything!! The bean is my goal and I am working on it, making changes in my life to get me where I need to be! Like i was told once....in order to change your ways sometimes you have to change your playmates, playgrounds, and playthings!!
by MyLifeIsMine   5 Posts
Posted on 2/18/2009 11:05 AM
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I am what I eat so I,m the coffee.and I like the way it works out for the coffee. Kinda like me...........in all my trouble I believe I have blossomed into a very rich cup of coffee..............except Im afraid when Im let out of my cup, ill spill all over the place............
Im very emotional today.....
by freeme   434 Posts
Posted on 1/22/2009 12:05 PM
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I feel sad today; definitely the carrot.
by Natalie   729 Posts
Posted on 1/15/2009 4:51 PM
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I started out as a carrot, and my marriage started turning me weak. So I worked hard to enjoy the good things in life, an egg, and eventually stopped caring about parts of my life.  But now I am working HARD to be coffee, and I am hoping it will help save my marriage.
by PinkCloud   16 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 3:25 PM
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Trial by fire, DJ, you will get there again.

*hugs*
by delia_M   2861 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 12:13 PM
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I definately used to be a coffee bean.  There was no situation that I couldn't handle for the longest time.  I just went with it and changed what I could, but since stbx and OM .....  I've turned into an egg.  I hope to return to beaing coffee again, but have a long road to get there.
by DJPO   599 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 11:40 AM
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I've always thought of my self as a carrot, but the last couple of years have taught me so much.  I think I'm more like the coffee bean, now (and I am a java junkie!)

The thing about a coffee bean is that it has to go through the trauma of boiling....raw beans are so bitter!
by angielou   1565 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 10:59 AM
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The trouble with being the coffee bean is while you are adapting, you can't always fix things.
by Heartbrokepicker   418 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 10:03 AM
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I started out as carrots but then worked my way up to coffee beans.
by MNL   104 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 9:20 AM
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Loved the post Paula, I'd have to say I'm a bit of all three right now but working hard on eliminating the carrot and the egg.
by ptrc   164 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 7:05 AM
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I loved this post!!! I'm trying to work out who I am. I'm still not sure.
I try and be like the bean but I don't always succeed so I then become a carrot. But others may see me as an agg, so I suppose I'm not really sure what I am. (FOOD for thought).
by pastfirst   55 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 5:48 AM
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My first response was the coffe bean, I hope not the egg.  A very interesting post.  Can I vote for all of the above, but over time?
by Jamesalone   2778 Posts
Posted on 1/14/2009 12:42 AM
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I want to be the coffee bean, but I think I go back and forth between the carrot and the egg.  I do not want this experience to turn me into a bitter and unfeeling person.  Then again, I do not want to turn into absolute mush. 
by meteor   488 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 7:59 PM
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I think I'd have to say that I'm all three but I hope to be more like the coffee bean - even though I don't like coffee but love the smell of it!! :)  Great post  - thanks so much!!  Makes ya think that's for sure!! :)
by freedom   1011 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 6:47 PM
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I personaly think we are all Carrots-eggs-coffee bean. It would just be different stages we are in. Heartbroke/lonliness
 Surviving
Strength
only we can decide what stage we are in and what we are going to do to get to the next stage.
beautiful post.
remember hapiness is all around you. You just have to look for it
by Bill2009   2 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 6:39 PM
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Good one, I can relate to the carrot early on, but believe I am now closer to being the coffee bean, and I love coffee!  ; )
by kdb   3175 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 6:38 PM
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I am definitely the bean, and I don't drink coffee, either! Never have! But I do love the smell of coffee :)

by zuki   685 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 5:56 PM
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I was always the bean and I hate coffee too. But I think my ex thought I was the egg. but someitmes I so long to be the carrot; just for a little while. My load gets heavy sometimes.
by trisha9054   4967 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 5:26 PM
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I can relate to the carrot, but now I think that I have arisen to be the bean....yippee!!  I love coffee anyways.
by deborah-trevino   1099 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 5:09 PM
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I would have to say that I am now a coffee bean- woo hoo- I love coffee!

I used to be the egg- but lifes hardships and trials have helped me change!

by mtnvly   3539 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 4:59 PM
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I'm the coffee bean.  I don't say that to pat myself on the back.  After everything I went through this last year, especially this last summer- I came out okay.  I didn't become soft and weak.  I didn't become hardened.  I took my experiences and changed the world around me.
by Dactyl   2607 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 4:55 PM
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ok, that ain't right...I'm a bean but I hate coffee...

I hate myself! AHHHHHHHHH!

LOL

wonderful post paula....=)
by spaznskitz   7745 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 4:53 PM
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Hey Paula, I can relate to the carrott and the egg. I am looking forward to working on becoming like the coffee bean. THank you for the pick me up.

by pk07   11 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 4:13 PM
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Excellent post!
I think that I have been all three at one time or another.
by mjs   138 Posts
Posted on 1/13/2009 1:38 PM
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