Stand by your man/woman . . .

Stand by my woman, always.

A.) STAND BY HER/HIS SIDE.....

Remember "for better or worse"..... I cannot stand that my stbx still trys to call my parents and friends and sent them a holiday card and everything!!!! It curds my milk, seriously!

RW

P.S. hope this help!

I would not want either my spouse or my parents or siblings making me chose between them. If push comes to shove - I'd side with my family - they would never divorce me.

I always stood by my ex's side when we were married even when I knew I didn't agree with him.  Even when he verball and mentally abused me and the boys I stood by his ass.  Even when he went out and spent all our damn money on stupid shit and I had to scrape enough to make the house payment and he would bitch me out becuz I didn't make enough money--let along what a damn budget is!!  I stood by him thru thick and thin and my family did too!!  And what good did that do - not jack shit.  Sorry to be so blunt about it but I'm speakin' the truth.  He was never close to his dysfunctional family.  Hell he quit talking to his mom 9 yrs ago when my youngest was born he called to tell her that he was in the neonatal ICU at the hospital and doesn't look good, she said she would call back and she how I was doing and how the baby was doing--she NEVER freakin' called back!!!  So he never called her and never spoke to her again.  He refuses to talk to his dad becuz his parents divorced when he was 10 and his dad never came to see him and his sisters (gee de ja freakin' vu becuz that's what he's doing to his boys right now!!).  Look how the cycle keeps continuing!!  It will keep continuing until someone grows some balls and stands up and breaks it!! :)  Anyways, I'm done standing by my man, becuz I've already gotten burned and I'm not going down that slippery slope again trust me!! ;)

My family hated my stbx.  They were civil to him and treated him well, but they hated him...so there was a lot of jig dancing when he left!  I always stood up for him to my family!  When we got married, my parents weren't even at our wedding because they hated him.  I didn't talk to my dad for a year and a half.....in effect, I gave up my family for him.

When ever something would happen and his parents would get mad at me, he never stood up to them.  Just let them walk all over me.

My family and I have an even stronger relationship now than ever.  Sometimes it takes almost losing something to realize how important it is.  Ironically, My stbx's family is on my side in the divorce.  They do not accept his gf, do not want her in their house.  I was invited to Christmas....he did not come.  The shoe is now on the other foot for him!

I'm not a big fan of blind loyalty.

I always said I wanted to stand behind my man for 2 reasons:

1) So I can enjoy the view.
2) So I can administer a swift kick when it's needed.

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That said, however, I think it has to be on a case by case basis. If one party is clearly wrong, and the other is clearly right, the matter is pretty simple. I'll stand for whoever is right. That can be subjective though. One person's "right" may not agree with my perspective on it. If the lines are blurred on right/wrong...that's a little different, and in such cases I'd tend to give my spouse the benefit of the doubt.

If this is your situation, and he never got along with your in laws before, but now is buddy-buddy with 'em, he's being a dick, pure and simple. It's not about you being right or wrong, it's about how much he can piss you off because you're getting divorced.

I would need to more about the situation. Of course a spouse should support them. However, is not talking to the inlaws really supporting you? Just because someone say "hi" and exchanges small pleasantries doesn't mean that you think they are correct or that you are not with your spouse. It is very possible to disagree and still be civil.

I had always stood by my husband's side while we were together.  He did the same for me.  But we're in a different world now, the one called DIVORCE.  My parents are gone, so thankfully, they don't have to see this, although I believe they do from where they are.  His family?  They would stand by me 100%.  This I know in my heart.  In fact, they already have.