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Stopped by Church last night...

Well, I stopped in with my son on the way home from a kids New Years Eve party. It was my old catholic school, and there were having New Years Eve services. I just wanted to go in and sit and talk to God for a bit, and my son came with me.

We chatted for a bit about God. I then told him to say a prayer for something he would like better in his life, but that it must be between him and God. He folded his little hands, bowed his head, and prayed.

I too, bowed my head and prayer. A few minutes later he whispered to me "Dad....it's okay, I can tell you, you're my father. I asked God for you and mommy to get back together"

All I could do was smile and hold back the tears. I told him that God works in mysterious ways, and while mommy and daddy might never get back together, maybe something good will come from his prayers. I could see tears in his eyes, and I reassured him that the time we have together is special. He then said mom never talks about God, just about the OM.

I'm enjoying my vacation, and have fought against any thoughts of her and the OM. I pray that somehow God will let me know what his plans are for me soon, as I'm tired of feeling so damn alone and unwanted. It's a long hard road, but I'm doing it alone.

Happy New Years my friends.

by HurtInColorado 1139 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 11:35 AM

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wish you were close i would take you out.... i had a "christian man" i thought then he left me he said he would just ask for forgiveness. i still pray for him to have a holy ghost awakining and come back but who knows he says his mind is set. that is so awesome what you do with your kiddo. God should always be first. i pray he sends you and your kiddo a wonderfull christian spouce and honors the bible and the oaths that she takes.

by stephany 13 Posts
Posted on 1/6/2009 9:53 AM

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They grow up soon quickly so its good to share moments like these.

In 2009 try embracing gratitude and forgiveness. These too are qreat lessons for our children to learn, especially when their prayers are results focused.   My daughter and I begin all her prayers to God with a list of all that she is grateful for and I am humbled by her heartfelt thanks to God. I hear her thanks for all the loving people (including the OW) in her life it makes me feel fortunate too have her surrounded by so much love and care.

Gratitude and forgiveness will help you with your thoughts of your wife's OM and help relieve you of the anger and feelings of being alone.   Gratitude will help teach your son to see his blessings as comfort too.

Happy New Year

by timless 781 Posts
Posted on 1/2/2009 12:02 PM

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Did you ever watch the Parent Trap movies. My favorite is the original and the remake is good too.

It let's us know that children generally want their own parents to remain together no matter what. My daughter was hooked on the original Parent Trap movie for a long time. I finally had to hide it and teach her gently about real life.

It's a hard lesson but they do understand (when they are older) sorry but all kids want the fairy tale of their own parents staying together (no matter what the circumstance)

I pray for all of you who have children and who are divorcing, separated or are divorced. It's difficult to understand in a child's mind but think about them in how you act while going through this...

They hurt too but will make it through this just like you!

by lgoodgal 1036 Posts
Posted on 1/2/2009 2:00 AM

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Good for you, parents teach the children well. Ecclesiastes I think. You have a great son, just let him know that he is loved by God and you, and that no matter what happens that will never change.

by Jamesalone 2778 Posts
Posted on 1/2/2009 12:20 AM

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I actually met my ex in church; he moved to the city I live in, and was trying out new churches. Part of the reason a lot of people were shocked when he filed was that we were both extremely active in the church. I had often felt, though, he did it only for social reasons, and because our church is a very liberal Protestant denomination, and he had been raised Catholic. I think it was all about shock value for his family, and when that wore off, there was nothing there for him. I think if he really did believe in God, and God's time, we might still be married. Fortunately for me, I do. It has helped me and my kids a lot.

by musicmom 85 Posts
Posted on 1/2/2009 12:10 AM

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If only it was that easy to have it change by praying. But like you, said Heavenly Father works in mysterious ways and will not let you down. You may be miserable for a while but your faith will sustain you. Keep saying your prayers

by KLAS 162 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 9:01 PM

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That is a moment your son will never forget. He may not always be able to call it to mind, but it is indelibly etched upon his heart.

Come what may, your marriage has generated something precious. Always treasure that, and he will grow into a righteous man...

by lenn 2653 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 3:28 PM

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What a wonderful dad you are. And no your not alone, we all are here for each other, we got your back! Take care, enjoy your vacation, and give that son of yours many many hugs!
Happy New Year...

by kdb 3175 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 3:27 PM

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You had some wise words for your son. Actually, they were for both of you.

I'm glad you are enjoying your vacation, and not focusing your thoughts elsewhere.

Your son is going to grow up to be a great guy, I can tell. He's already got a really great Dad.

by Kitty7470 2621 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 3:19 PM

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Kids are so innocent. Your heart shattered when you heard that, didn't it?

*hugs you tight*

They don't understand the complex issues that adult men and women have to suffer. I wish we could shield them from all of that.

Bravo for you taking him to pray.

(and for the record, you're not alone) ;)

by delia_M 2861 Posts
Posted on 1/1/2009 1:08 PM

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