All I want to do is curl up and cry.

cher,i know how u feel and i wish i could cry with u.hugs and kisses! shy

cherbear-
your not the only one that has no family that visits, don't feel bad. I cried most of the day too!  Thinking of you at this time, hoping we can both make it to a better time in our lives!!!!

Hugs to you- I have been there and it is tough. Please try to find something to occupy your mind- a book or a good movie. A friend or what ever.
You are not alone - believe me!

I wish I could hug you right now as so many of us are in the same situation. I so wish tomorrow was over and  I could start the New Year. You don't bring us down  we bring ourselves down because we ARE hurting BUT THINGS ARE GOING TO GET BETTER !! We are hear to vent and lift each other up A big hug to you and please let us know how you feel tomorrow because we care about each other

misspatti

There seem to be a lot of us who are feeling your pain tonight. Obviously you're not alone, or we all wouldn't be here on Christmas Eve. My kids are with my ex and his entire family. They don't even want to be with their father tonight, but they went so they can spend the time with their grandfather, aunts, uncles, and cousins.
 
Again this year, I've received texts and phone calls from several family members who wish I was there instead of "her" (the OW who is now his wife) which definitely doesn't make me feel any better about not being there. I hate being excluded now. 

This isn't my first Christmas like this, but the difference this year is ...  even though I'm alone, I don't feel lonely and I didn't shed one tear today. I guess what I'm trying to say is .. tonight I'm proof that it does get better with time.  Hang in there cherbear, you never bring us down.

Cherbear-

I am so sorry your alone. I truly feel that no one should be alone at Christmas time. Even those difficult ex's that bring out our angry thoughts deserve some love tonight. II hope that my words will assuage some of your pain. I also wish that i could be bring cheer to all those who need it right now. It might also do me some good to relieve my depression as well. Please know that my thought are with you and others in your plight tonight.

i am so sorry for your pain. everyone is right, we all feel it too. for every rotten thing i have been through the last 8 months the one bright spot is the love and support of my friends and this site with kind hearts such as yours. I am sitting alone in my room too with my dog sarge and cat ice. sarge keeps kissing the tears off my face while ice purrs beside me. with them i am never alone. neither are you. reach out, call a friend write to us. we are here for you. hugs, ann

It's ok.  The day is coming when none of us will have to shed tears.  My STBX said to me, "Do you think this was easy for me?  I cried alone many nights."  I'm sure you did.  Why don't I believe her?

Wishing I could give you a hug.  Even though it's not enough, it's something.  Try to think of it as another day.  I know that sounds crass, but it's not meant to be.  Just do what you have to in order to get thru one more day.

You didn't bring anyone down.  We're here to build you back up.

Hugs you cher.

Hi Cher,  I am so sorry.  I am with you and I feel your pain. Please know that mentally you are not alone.

Oh I feel your pain! Some of us in life are tortured, you must be one of them. I know that I am. I always stand amazed the amount sh*t my divorce dumps on me.  Oh, the heart felt sorrows that keep coming.  Time heals.  But how much time is the question. I pray for justice every night for those of us who have been burned by divorce. Remember you can do this day!

Sorry to hear of your pain.  Being alone for the holidays is tough.  This Thanksgiving was my first one.

I'll tell you this, living well is the best revenge.  Remember your lonliness and everything you hate about it.

Use it as motivation, and do everything in your power to get yourself strong and in a position so that this will be your LAST lonely holiday ever.  I wish you nothing but happiness in 2009!  Hang in there....

Cher,
          You can't help how you feel right now.  Life is tough, but so are you.  You're not bringing me down, I'm here to bring you up.  You have had the strength to reach out to me when I was hurting.  Now feel that strength in you.  Feel joy that your children are enjoying the holiday and that they will have good memories of it.  It is not so for all.  I cannot remember my Christmases when I was young because they were full of pain according to my therapist.  I have blocked them out.  Your kids won't be able to say that.  Be proud of that.  Be happy for them.

yes no worries ,,, i have a very short list in the family area awell infact i am sitting her alone 1 candle some wine and my buddy Bo my dog...its nice and peaceful but very lonely...this day will pass and maybe next yr we will be  rocking around the xmas tree..and then some heheh

Honey, this is very, very painful--probably will always have pain for you.  This was not the way your story was supposed to go, yet it is the way the plot developed, and you are left coping with the mess of it all.

Don't ever apologize for "bringing anyone down."  I only wish I could be there with you right now, but all I have to give are words...

...not much.  You'll certainly be in my thoughts and prayers tonight.  May God give you the hug that I cannot.