USING THE CHILDREN

well my soon to be ex husband came about with a new girlfriend and left my 2 children and I the day before christmas. His brother and mother are covering it up to prove to this female that he is not married anymore. I work on weekends and he watches the kids every weekend. My oldest son is 3 years old and is very smart told was asking about this woman which upset me. He just told me that he cheated and moved out and is using my children to show his commitment to her. He is trying to take them for new years eve but doesnt want to tell me where he will be at that time. I'm not stupid and I know he will be with her. I feel like I have a right to know where my children are and I feel disgusted at the fact that he is using my children that understand whats going on to get what he wants. I expect more for my children and have better standards for them.

by angel329 19 Posts
Posted on 12/30/2007 4:06 PM

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This is a perfect case of what should not happen. The kids are caught in the middle. It is sad....I have a similar situation going on where the ex to be is using the kids everytime he makes her mad. I have heard her say "tell him we don't want him around us" while their oldest was on the phone with him. It is just not right.
I am not sure that you can do anything about him having her around them unless it is overnight.
My boyfriends ex made sure and put it into the seperation agreement that he couldn't have a girlfriend around the kids at ANY time. Not that she couldn't but only he..which is in the process of being changed.
You are going to have to allow him to have her around them and I know it is not easy. You just need to be the best parent that you can be. He is supposed to be an adult and be responsible . Note that I said supposed to be. Unless he has something to hide then he should n't have a problem telling you where they will be . He also has to allow phone calls etc when they are with him. Tough situation. Good luck to ya!

by mtnvly 3539 Posts
Posted on 3/25/2008 8:22 AM

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He should not be using his children to show ANY commitment at all...What is he thinking?

by BandysGirl 37 Posts
Posted on 3/8/2008 2:59 AM

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