From Non-Interested dad to "Dad of the Year"

I'm looking for guidance and advice. I just separated one month ago. My husband has gone from not wanting to be involved at all in our 9 mo. daughter's life, to acting like "Dad of the Year". I am letting him see her as much as possible, but have put my foot down on over nights because she is still breastfeeding. I feel like the only reason he has had this about face, is because his ego has been bruised and not because he really cares about our daughter.

When we were together he would tell me things like "her baby food smells too bad so I don't want to feed it to her" and "she can't sit in my lap too long or my legs fall asleep" and he would flat out yell at her for doing and acting like a baby, which she is.

My worry is the long term. What happens when he goes back to being the same guy he always was. He did this with me and our relationship hundreds of times. I am worried about her safety and possible neglect. What should I be doing now since we haven't done anything legally binding?

by phiphi 1 Post
Posted on 12/19/2008 8:36 PM

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I am sorry I don't have any good advice, fortunately for you he cannot have overnights. For a good reason! You should post this in legal questions. There is a very smart lawyer who checks in and has helped many people on this site. Her name is Spazsnskits or something very close.

When he goes back to being the way he was, (hope it is soon), you will have something to show the court when it comes time for the formal visitation agreement.

Best of luck, I know it sounds hollow, but for the sake of the child I wish you much better than we think we deserve. Take care and let us know how things are going.

by Jamesalone 2778 Posts
Posted on 12/19/2008 10:37 PM

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