Well~ I finally did it~

Many of you have read my current dilemma with my bf and his ex. It seems that the snowball kept getting bigger and moving faster. It seems he does not have the ability to tell the truth, he likes the drama that he brings, he cannot manage money and it just goes on. It breaks my heart to see what the 3 kids born in his marriage go thru. When he and I got together he told me stories of "her" and I took them with a grain of salt ( because I know there are ALWAYS 2 sides!) . It didn't take long to see what he was saying was at least mostly true. And then I started seeing the other side. His being late to get the kids, sometimes not at all. It goes on. She kept the kids from him whenever she wanted for whatever reason. It just went on and on. I thought, once court is down it will get better!

Recently, we got his visitation nailed down and had her control over it removed. I thought- things should get better now! We can plan and no more surprises! Yeah right! He was late almost every night returning the kids, she was calling her house and if the kids didn't answer the phone there was hell to pay. She banged on his truck windows , yelling and screaming.
Anyway, I told him, you need to stop doing that to your kids. Until you get the final paperwork( he says he can't remember the actual times from court because they changed back and forth so much) take the kids home when SHE says to. It is NOT worth what is happening to THEM! So- his first Friday night with the new schedule- he does not get the kids. I had no clue until the following Monday when he fessed up- and said "she" said she was taking them to the game. I told him It was YOUR time YOU need to get them. But I KNEW something was wrong- so I texted his son and he told me Dad called and said he couldn't get us so we rode to the game with mom.

I was told- she didn't think I was smart enough to win in court! I was appalled because I had done all the work! I was then accused of putting MY phone on his bill..Week before last my sons scrimmaged on Thursday( his night with the kids) I asked if he was bringing them to the game. The only answer I got was it's not worth my time because I have to have them back at 8. But he went to my dads shop with them which is 5 minutes from my house. Someone told " her" about the game, she asked how it went but the kids had no clue what she was talking about.

My son killed a doe the first Sat of the season and asked him to help process it. He said No- I didn't take him hunting, I didn't help him shoot it and I am not cleaning it. ( HE sure did EAT it though!)

He had told me he was only working a half day the following Monday. He was going to hunt. He leaves @ 5ish and is not home til after 10. When I asked him about it he said- I took my boys hunting- I told you about it ( I would have remembered if he had) . Then Thanksgiving comes around- my blood pressure was up and I was having anxiety attacks so I was in bed most of the day. His family was having a meal in WVA - I could not move so I didn't go. He didn't either. Fri he left @ 4ish to go hunting with his kids. This was his 1st overnight with them and he was to stay in WVA. I heard nothing from him until Sat when he returned. Sunday he watched football all day. His sister stopped by and he had told them he thought I was talking to "her" because she knew about the game. (He seems to have forgotten that she is friends with a woman who has a son on the team. ) I made up my mind I was done. I cannot take anymore of this stupid drama. I was telling him today. I slept on my couch- As soon as he sits down at his desk, he checks his bank account online. He is 500 bucks over drawn! I am sitting here WAITING to be accused of taking his money. But he didn't. I wrote him a check for last week- and gave him 2 weeks severance. Handed it to him and told him I am done. He can't tell the truth- How DARE he even think I need or would even consider taking his money - how dare he THINK I would talk to his ex. I said- I can't take it anymore. I am done.

He put the check in my car and said he doesn't want it( it was 1000 bucks!) . Then he left. All of his things are here. So he will be back at some point. I need to have the locks changed so he can't just come and go. But I finally GOT THE NERVE. I just had to tell you guys!