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My wife cheated on me and the first question I have is that I have heard that most women have to have an emotional tie when they have sex with someone which makes the affair a more difficult challenge to give up? The second is what are people's thoughts on if cheaters really know the hurt and pain they cause others? My wife says she wants to stay married and says she has fallen in love with me again (said she fell out of love earier) and we have enjoyed some good times since I found out.
There was so much deceit and lies when the affair was going on and she filed for divorce (later dropped it) that it is very difficult to regain the trust we had before.
Here is the really tough part, with all the things she has said about staying together and falling back in love I believe she either started the affair again or it never ended.
I had told her in a loving way before she dropped the divorce that I cannot be in a marriage where there is more than two people and I just need the truth.
If the affair is going on again i can't figure out why she dropped everything. She knows I don't want to be married to her if she is not faithful.
Don't know if she is stringing me along for some reason or really wants to stay in the marriage but has a problem with cheating that she can't control.
All I know is hurts like hell to have someone do you wrong like that.
If the affair is still going on I will probably file which is scary because when I make that decision there will be no turning back.
One last question, I have a deep faith and know that forgiving is the right thing to do. I really did that when I found out. A thought I have had is that maybe she thinks that hey, he will put up with whatever I do because I cheated and he is still in the marriage.
My attitude is to pull out all the stops for saving my family/marriage but there is no way I can live a life where cheating and lies are taking place.