moving on

If he loves you the way he claim he does why did he sign the papers and why is he still with the other woman? It seems as if he wants to go from one to the other. I would tell him he must stop right away and show more respect for you or, you will change the way he visit his son. Move on life is much better than that.

Yes you need to tell him that! You make your mind up what you want and need in your life and let him know this...

I am agree with all of you , but non of you answered my question , should I tell him that I still care about him  and in my heart he has special place because what I shared with him and specially our son , is very precious and we can not put everything we had in garbage because of the     ow.
at this stage being honest with him could help or it makes him more comfortable about what he is doing to his family an the  OW . or should I tell him that I want to move on without his love in my heart I want to kill his love in my hear. I just want to see him and our son happy. But personally I can not give him my love because of the     ow    , I was thinking may be if I tell him that He is important to me and to our son in another word play the game that the other woman does, ( he told me once that she makes him feel  like a man, he is in control , she does everything specially in bed for him she loves him the way he is) it is true that always I asked him to drink less vine, or brush his teeth and becareful about his health do more exercise , but I loved him and I wanted the best for him I wanted that he looks better and be more responsible I asked him often take our son to  some sport activities, or little thing that I thought if somebody tells me to take care of myself it means he cares about me, but he told me because of all this little thing he cheated on me.Did I do wrong, I think this OW does not even love him , because she does not even care if his teeth are very yellow or if he is lazy and so on, is it really "love" to see our loved one does harm himself and just watch them and say nothing.

I meant it is a GOOD thing to tell him- sorry I did not make that clear-

Yes it is a good thing. If he does not stop what he is doing then he needs to not be allowed in your house when seeing his son.
Make him pick him up and take him elsewhere- if that does not work then you may need to have it court ordered. It may end up that you meet in a public place , with witnesses.

If he loved you and wanted you then why did he sign the divorce papers.  He wants to touch you and kiss all over you then he needs to go home and do that with the OW.  Your house is where you raise your son and your son needs to see some balance.  It isn't easy to tell the man that you once shared a bed with to get out and to respect you but you are going to have to put your foot down.  Yes, it is going to hurt, your going to cry and your going to feel like the bad person, but that is something that you will figure out.  He is treating you like my STBX is treating me, like a caged dog waving a bone in front of my face when he wants to. But you sound like your a strong woman and you will get through this, but now is the time to think of you and your son and not him and his feelings.....  Take Care

You already know you deserve better then that...My ex thinks he loves me again and keeps doing the same thing. The new girl he has is nice but i'm done with men who will go for anything. It just means they stand for nothing...no woman will ever make men like that 100 % sure...they only guarentee is that he will never change. As an individual we only do what we want...if he wanted to he would try to make things work but he is selfish and thinks he can have her and not let you go. Everytime he is with you..it makes it easier to let you go and makes you feel worse. Everytime you say no you are letting him go little by little and its making you stronger and the opposite for him. If you son is ever gonna see a healthy relationship and be happy its all going to be because of you. You are doing great and goodluck with everything.
Kristen