WHY WONT HE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE ???????

Hi, sorry to hear about the problems you're having.  Do you record everything that is going on?  The 15 yr. old going to a bar is a no no, record the fact.  Make sure it is a fact and for the most part don't spend a lot of time worrying, this might be the game, keep you upset.  My soon to be ex loved upsetting me, that was part of the control.  As someone earlier said, to chang a court order there has to be some new evidence of neglect or something.

It never hurts to be on your guard but don't drive yourself crazy and become paranoid. Your ex would have to prove something major to claim you are an unfit mother. Just keep raising your kids the way you are, keep being a good mother, keep your eyes and ears open and if you hear the hissing of the snake in the grass then start to worry.

thanks freedom, i just want to move on and live my life without thinking what is he up to now. I never thought in my life that this man would do this to me and his children. i do know that his wife plays a big role in this,but he is just as guilty. i really think that its a control thing. i dont know , all i want is to live.

You need to trust your mother's instincts on this and be on the lookout and have your attorney at the ready if need be.  It's sad to say, but some people aren't happy unless they are making someone else unhappy, but I have found this to be true.  You need to stay strong for your kids and be on the ready at all times.  I was told by my lawyer that the court won't change custody or visitation unless there has been a drastic change in your situation, and it has to be brought in front of the court by a motion to change custody and visitation before anything is done.  Both parties are served with notice of hearing then they go to court.  I think they may appoint a guardian ad litem to represent the children and make sure they talk to them to see where they want to go, but it takes more money to get this done and patience becuz it usually doesn't get to court too fast, and you can bring in witnesses and all that to court with you.  So don't get upset or nervous now, becuz it may never happen.  My mom always tells me and I try to remember this-but she says try not to worry about things that will probably never happen!  I try - I know it's easier said than done--but try to think of that!!  Good luck to you and I'm sorry he's doing this to you!

how many years do i have to watch over my shoulder. dont you think 7 years is enough. he just took me back to court because he said i was in contempt of court, which was thrown out, so i decided to take him for all the medical bills, which was about 10,000 dollars and he lost. i dont know whats next. now he wants to change visitation, which is a big NO because he let my 15 year old go out to the bars with his step daughter . i just want everything to stop. i want him to leave me alone.

Stay strong, but always, and I repeat always, keep a look over your shoulder.  You said something in your post, your ex and his new wife, so he has moved on so quickly, so why is he worried about what you are doing.  Don't give him anything to talk about, I can tell you that I hate to have to go out and be around people or go do something that I want to do but I always have a sitter with me so that I have a witness....  It pays in court, trust me.  Usually the father has to really have some dirt on a mother to take the children away and right now things are not going his way so he is just trying to make you mad and to see if you will do or say something he can use in his defense.  Remember this and live by it until all the court crap is over, anything you say can and will be used against you.....  Keep your head up and live your life and let the snake cut his own head off...  Hugs