Sex life when pregnant then after birth & its affect on the marriage

Strickly from a guys point, well, my point of view. Sex is important to marriage, but is only one of many important aspects that need attending to in a healthy marriage.
 
The reality of it is that there are going to be times that not all aspects of a marriage will be able to get the attention they need and this includes sex. Even if it's over a year with out sex, that is just sometimes the reality of life and I could never use the lack of sex to end my marriage, especially as you described it above, there were reasons for no sex.
 
Also, as enjoyable as sex is between a couple, making love is a whole let better and different that sex. So, I'm sorry that this happened to you. Sex is important, but far from everything.

I'm not very good at talking about this (I'm soooo glad no one can see my face right now) and I feel very embarrased to be sharing this, however, the last time my husband and I had sex was the night my daughter was concieved. She's nearly 16 months old. Like you, there were (and still are) several stressful factors, not much help, hormones, exhaustion, working, etc. etc. Really hard to get in the mood for sex at the end of long, tiring day, knowing I'd be up again in 6-8 hours (or less if you count getting up in the night, once or twice) to do it all again. That being said, I don't think it's normal, in terms of a healthy, committed relationship to not have sex for that long. However, in terms of other not-so-healthy relationshps, anything goes! What's normal for you may not be normal for other people and vice versa. It's a complicated issue, for sure.

HA! I got ya beat. My running tab is now sitting at over 2 years, and 1.5 months. The only difference is, it's my spouse who is apparently lacking in the sex-drive department. I'm randier than a billy goat, lmao!

ok ok, *puts on my grown up hat*

Seriously, while i do understand sex is not the end-all-be-all of a marriage, it is (and I have said before) an integral part of the intimacy factor for any relationship to be a true success. I think it's more about intimacy for me, but guys may look at this differently. Going that long without some level of physical intimacy (petting, mutual masturbation, intercourse, oral, etc) is not normal.

I understand there are mitigating circumstances such as health, stress, that can all have an effect on a woman's sense of willingness in that area. You can safely have sex up until your third trimester and some have even gone beyond. It depends on your comfort level and the willingness of your partner and you. I personally had never wanted a boink-fest more in my life than when I was pregnant with my daughter. Some men are turned off by pregnancy, and others think it's the sexiest thing in the world! It's purely subjective and there really isn't a right or wrong answer to that question (sex during pregnancy or not). It all depends on you and your partner.

I tend to agree with pure, sex is the best stress relief for me! And I also agree that his issues would definitely be a turn off for me too if I were in that situation.

Best of luck

I would say that it is not normal - it is tough for a man ( and some women ) to go that long. If there are health issues- that is one thing but it is not normal.
Yes- he should have helped you- yes--yes. I agree with you. But to expect a normal healthy man to go without for even a month is too long ( as I said unless there are health issues on either part)
See if he wants to counsel- if he doesn't then move on. But you need to look into the fact of why you didn't want to be intimate. Maybe he was abusive( calling you fat etc) .

I have not had a baby.  But I couldn't imagine going without sex for 1.5 years. 

Friends of mine that have been pregnant have had sex while they were pregnant.  I thought sex while pregnant was healthy, just certain positions may not be good. 

Stress, well for me, sex is the best relief for stress, so I can't relate to that. 

However, if your stbx is utilizing pot, I would not want to be with him either.