Now I need to ask one more question....

My stbxh has never apologized. Not for anything. Not for marrying his boss before our divorce is final, not for bigamy nothing, but he will have his day in court and I hope they throw the "book" at him.

 Oh yeah and I got a "someday" he will tell me what happened to our marriage. Not holding my breath for that tho.

My stbx has not apologized or shown any remorse.  He is still pissed off at me for finding out about his cheating.  It is all my fault for 'sleuthing' to find out the truth.  Right now he is so angry and self-absorbed that he cannot accept any responsibility for his stupidity.  When I see him now I don't see the man I was once so madly in love with, I see a total loser.  With the degree of deception my stbx did, including walking out of the house carrying a bible in hand stating he was attending Bible Study only to meet his whore instead....no level of apology would be acceptable or sincere.  I believe him to be a spawn of the devil himself !

After I discovered the 'virtual' affair and his posting on a swinger website as a single man first he denied it. then I showed him the proof. He tried to say he didn't consider it cheating since there was no physical interaction. I explained how I felt & why I was leaving and now two days before I move he still has not apoligized. I don't think he ever will. Not that it would have changed my decision but it would have been nice.

Let's see...I didn't get an apology for the first one, just an explanation and justification.  The second one, I got an apology..."I'm sorry I hurt you..."  but it was negated by the following sentence..."but I'm glad that it happened because now you know how I felt back in February."  It's a long story, but the short version is that I rejected her sexual advance that day, and it was the straw that broke the camel's back.  I've since apologized...many times for that, but she just can't/won't get over that.  I understood why she did what she did, but it doesn't excuse what she did...she accepts no responsibility for her actions and lays blame on everyone but herself.  She still can't tell me why she cheated on me the second time...says she doesn't know.  Whatever.  I told her that when it comes to explaining one's actions, I don't know is for five year olds.  When she can tell me why she did it, then maybe we can have closure.  But I won't hold my breath on getting that explanation or a true apology from her.

I received an apology after my husband's "one time thing that just happened" but I took it with a grain of salt because he only apologized to try to not make him kick him out, which he knew I would not do. His apologies don't mean a thing to me!