My mother disagrees with my decision

My mother in law told me it was my fault because I didn't keep him going to church.  DUH.  I stayed with him through about 23 years of cheating on and off -- now he's found his love and I am out.  My own mother cheered me on -- thanks mom.

Most of our moms are from the generation that we stay in a marriage no matter what. That is how they were raised and that is how they feel. Things are different.
I would say - do what you need to do. You have to make a choice for you. Your parents don't live with you to see what you are dealing with.
When my parents found out what my first husband was doing to me and my kids they were appalled. My brother was also- see I got pregnant with my oldest daughter when I was 17. I married her dad at his insistance. He claimed her- but as soon as the ring went on things changed. He NEVER accepted her as his after that. He was cruel to her- and siad he never trusted me etc. Nonone in my family knew this. My brother said he would have physically made him get a dna test. He did this for 16 years of her life, until the day he was killed. 
Anyway- make your own choice. I too am a believer of you made your bed now lay in it , but I take that to mean that we be responsible for our choices and live with them. I made a choice to have unprotected sex as a teen. When I became pregnant- I laid in  my bed by raising my daughter. I didn't abort her nor put her up for adoption. There is a time and a place for this. Don't take it to mean-ok my husband beats the crap out of me or he won't be faithful and I chose to be with him so I will live with it! If your enviroment is not healthy for the kids and you , you have tried counseling and all that you can try. Then it is time to cut your loss and move on.
I , like you, listen to those around me and have only recently begun to be able to say - but this is not for me!
Take care of you - let us know what is going on!

i've heard that one too, 'all men cheat' thing...

my mother and my sister both felt that i was a child to not know this and accept it.  'it's just what they do', they said.

mandimoo and ikey, God doesn't want His children living in lives filled with emotional abuse, physical abuse, pain and suffering.
I agree with Paula, I too don't like divorce and believe a marriage should be worked on if at all possible BUT when there is not hope, the other partner is not living up to the marriage vows and has violated them beyond words. Get out. I've been told by non-denominational, Catholic, , whatever religion base you can think of I've been to many and by counselors, friends, and family to not stay in a situation that is destroying you and your children.

I was shocked when my cousins grandmother told her the same things the two of you have been told. I of course said the opposite. Her husband was physically and emotionally abusive. She needed out for herself and her children's welfare. She finally left him and they are all doing so much better. I forgot about them until I read your words. Thank you for reminding me.
Like I told my cousin - You don't want your children growing up and falling into a abusive marriage because that's all they know. If you wouldn't want your children to be treated like that - don't put up with it yourself.
There is a great book out there. A easy question answer type book to help you know what you are doing is right. 1st I say pray and find your way. It seems you already have the answer. The book is titled: Too Good to Leave Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirschenbaum. Look it up. Mine is worn out at the seems. 
May you are yours have blessed holidays ahead.

My mother sent me back. Her reasoning was he had a good job and all men cheat. This as she was taking in my sister who had just left her husband. Not all mothers are fair. I was the last on her list of favorites.

it's not healthy for the kids to have two parents arguing and it's not a good learning environment for them.  what are they learning how to do in that situation?  do the same to others?  your mother is not living your life.  while i'm not pro divorce and think many marriages are salvagable with work, when abuse is involved, i don't think it's a reality.   listen to your gut. you know what to do.  your mother is probably afraid. and fear is the one thing abusers thrive on.

That's weird, cause my mother told me when I was telling her that I was thinking about divorce" YOU MADE YOUR BED NOW LIE IN IT" :-(