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When is enough, enough?

My husband and I have been talking about divorce for a couple months now.  I want one, he doesn’t.  This seems to be a cycle with us.  I get fed up and can’t take it anymore.  He promises to change his behavior and does for only a short time then we are back fighting again.

 


I do love him but he is very unreliable.  I just feel that this is a very unfair relationship.  He says he is very happy and it is me that needs to get over things. We have talked about what we need from each other and I have tried to do these things for him.  He has not even attempted to try for me but has acknowledged all the work I have been doing for him.  We do love each other but sometimes love isn’t enough. I’m having a hard time with that because I always thought that it would be. 

 

When is enough, enough?
by SIenna   3 Posts 
Posted on 11/25/2008 12:10 PM
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I asked myself the same question over and over and I have come to my own conclusion.  it was enough when I truly realized all hope is gone otherwise it was nothing but a vicious circle.  I need more than to tred water.
by camo   26 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 11:22 PM
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When you have done all that you can do- you have tried your best and there is no changes. You have looked at yourself and said- what part do I have in this situation? Have I tried to do all that he request? When you can say YES! I have done everything - I see no hope - Then enough is enough !
by mtnvly   3539 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 4:18 PM
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in my experience, I have found that only you will know when enough is enough because it will consume you until you actually do something about it.  You need to be sure first that you have done absolutely everything you can to make it work.
by deborah-trevino   1099 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 4:11 PM
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if you don't want to put up with it don't i was in the same battle for a few years and it turned all types of bad now iy husband have 2 kids and are wonde3ring what to do next. don't drag it on any longer.
by penknee   4 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 3:57 PM
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by divorce360com   104 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 12:16 PM
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only you know when enough is enough. but can you give us more details about the nature of your relationship?
by paula1   12662 Posts
Posted on 11/25/2008 11:01 AM
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