How do I get passed him moving on?

I like what ann101 said. Someitmes when I let myself think of my stbx and his family wrecking slut, I want him to know the pain he caused me and the kids.  It seems so UNFAIR!! But life isn't fair. I keep a prayer in my heart that I will not let myself sink to their low level. I will keep my intrigrity andI will trust in God. I keep remembering what a friend once told me, "two snakes in the bed bite each other".   They will eventually bite each. 

Be strong for your daughter. Make her want to be around, do lots of fun things with her.  And when he finally want sto spent time with her, she will not want to because she likes being with you.

Divorce sucks!  Every morning I tell myself I can do this day.  Becacuse some days are just hard! But I can do this day even if I have to pray constanately.

JUST TRY TO HANG IT THERE IT HURTS GOD I KNOW HE DOES ; ITS HARD FOR ME TO SEE MY X WITH HIS NEW WIFE; IVE CRYED SO MINY TEARS OVER HIM; BUT NO MORE I PICK MY SELF UP AND TRYING TO MOVE ON ;;;;;;;;; TIME WILL HEAL WANDA

I sure know how that feels.  The last time my husband and I separated I knew he would run back to this same woman (aka friend).  I was okay with it (as best to be expected) until I saw him coming to get my son from her house.  I immediately fell apart and was upset all over again.  I knew this was happening but to see it....different story.  Yes, the dilemma is we both have to get passed them moving on.  I keep hearing that time heals all wounds but I find no comfort in that.  I want to hurt him back and let him see how it feels...just cannot get there without crying in my wine glass/beer so to speak plus I know it isn't the right thing to do.  I am really going to try to surround myself with things to do, volunteer somewhere, go to church groups, find an al-anon group meeting, something to help me pass the time until I heal.  Maybe that would help you too?

Be strong! I know that my stbx is seeing someone right now and our papers havent even been filed yet. The way I look at it is he is weak. He constantly needs someone new for attention. It wont last long. Chances are he is afraid to be by himself, it won't work out with her and he is probably unhappy deep down inside because he is afraid of being alone. You are a strong enough person to be independent and most importantly focusing on your child. Anyone can find comfort in a new relationship. but newness wears off. You are truly a better person in the end. Shame on him for not seeing his child, she is so lucky to have you in her life for consistancy and structure, that is what is most important. I know it hurts, but eventually you will move on too, always being skeptical because of what you have been through. Bottom line, you do not need to depend on anyone but yourself, congratulations!

Much like the other posts, I don't have much to offer. You need time to let this heal.

Keep in mind one thing, though: He cheated on you three times, now he's already in a new relationship. Your feelings are light years beyond his ape-brain. (This is a male perspective, since I am a male......) Guys like that burn me up because they give guys like me a bad image.

I would like to point out that even if you were able to go out on dates with other men, it doesn't sound like you are ready to just yet. Let the pain heal. Spend time with your children, show them what a parent really is. When you are ready for dating again, you'll know.

I wish I had a magic bullet answer to that question.  All I can say is that you are still grieving the loss of your marriage and that it will fade, then pass as time goes on.  You will move on when you're ready, and right now...you aren't ready.  The best piece of advice I can give you is to try and concentrate on you and your child.  Don't worry about your ex (stbx?) and her...it isn't a race to see who gets over whom first.  Try not to dwell on that and try to concentrate on doing things for you and your child.  That is probably a full plate in and of itself.  I'll give you an analogy...it's like you're on the highway and you keep paying sole attention to the car to the right of you.  What happens if you keep looking there and don't check in front of you?  You'll end up in a high speed crash.  Worry about what's in front of you until you need to worry about what's to the right of you.  One emergency at a time.

Take things day by day...hour by hour, if you have to.  Keep busy and active...join some sort of social activity that you've always wanted to but never had the time for.  Do activities with your daughter...girl scouts, or something like that to keep you both active and involved.  Before you know it, you will be too busy to think about him and her...you'll have your own life that you'll be wrapped up in!

My heart goes out to you and I hope you feel better.  I wish you the best of luck in all this!!!

i wish i could tell you how. that would mean i know myself. i see  my stbx with his new girlfriend all the time. it is a knife in my heart (as well as in my back). my friends tell me to stay strong and know that i am better than that. small comfort. but your child knows and well apprecitate when they are older that you are the one there for him (her). you keep your committments and know the value of honor, trust, and love. my children are adults but even in their teenage years they know i was the one who would never leave them and yours will to. nothing lasts like the love and pride in their eyes. look at that the next time you see them. someone who will cheat with somelse will cheat on someone else. it is just a matter of time. keep turning here. there are lots of caring people who will hold you up in prayer and support.