He cheated, now I want him to file...legal implicatoins of it

natalie- file yourself - you want out, just do it.

We've split all the assets and paid off all the bills using community funds, and at least have agreed on that. From dividing the proceeds of the house all the way down to the cell phone bill, everything either has my name on it or his.

Again, I really don't know, but I think if we had to we could establish a legal date of separation based on all of that...I'm not really feeling vulnerable financially any longer. To his credit and mine too, we really tried to be reasonable about the monetary side of this. Who wants to go broke on top of it all?

I am a bit of a control person, though, and I'm beginning to think that if I want it done right, perhaps I should do it myself. I dunno.

When my stbbx left me to live with his family wrecking slut I kept asking him to serve me the papers and divorce me. He told me he would probably never get a round to it due to laziness. When my eyes opened I realized that while his was still married to me, he would be liquidating assets and because we were still married and had not filed for divorce it would be as if I was giving my permission for selling off marital property.  And of course he was putting the money in a new personal account.  So open your eyes and just file before assets no longer exist.

You know, maybe there's something to be said for filing myself. He'll probably mess something up anyway, in the name of "frugality."

And, yes, it will come out of community funds, is the theory.

Thanks, everyone, for giving me more to think about.

I do his bills and taxes and he has no clue how to do sh^^ so I did it all.  I got to show how he outspends me seven to one -- he makes four times what I do but end s up spending my money and his.  He is now on a budget of $100 cash a week as am I.  If he takes more so do I.  You need to be aware of all of what is in the paperwork so why not be smart and do the work.  Otherwise he might try to hide bank accounts or other investments.  Just my opinion.