tell me this.....

Bravo all

Tell her honestly how you feel, and that you don't think your glass is half full...I've been married for 30 years and left my husband because of his cheating 6 weeks ago...have my second counseling appointment this afternoon..

 

But I can think of a few things that are better since I left, I'm now longer belittled, ordered around, made to feel that I'm not doing enough, way less work, laundry, not around him smoking, don't have to cook for him, clean up after him or put up with his bad mood, doors slamming, I feel that I'm in much better shape emotionally and financially than he is...of course he wants me back, I'd want me back too if I was him...

 

so good luck with your appointment tomorrow, just tell her how you are feeling and she will help you see things differently...that's what I'm hoping for myself as well...

You simply tell her the truth about how you feel. You must be honest and open with your counselor or you are wasting your money and both your time and hers. I have been seeing a therapist for some time and I honestly look forward to my sessions. Sometimes we just have conversations about nothing but even those sessions help because I needed to talk with someone . Therapy has gotten me me to face a lot of things I never realized. But the whole trick to it is to be completely frank and not to be embarrassed to tell them anything. Believe me they have heard it all. My therapist had me journal and now when I look back at how I felt two years ago, or a year ago to how I feel now It is a huge difference.

Yes, tell her everything you are feeling.  I am going to my first appt with one soon and I cannot wait to unload.  Surely it will make you feel better to tell her how you feel and get one on one advice on how to get through it.  I hope it goes well for you.

Think about things other than the financial things. There are reasons that you are divorcing- that you don't have to deal with anymore. Maybe toothpaste in the sink, laundry , dirty dishes...I am not sure of your situation and why you are divorcing but I am sure there are reasons that you are not seeing just because this whole money thing has you so distraught.
Hope things go well with your counselor. She is trying to get you to look on the "bright side" and see some positive. That will help to take your focus off of some of the other stupid stuff he is doing.

Tell her how you really feel. I went to a counselor and spent my whole hour crying. That lasted 6 months and I did it once a week. It helped me out so much.

I know this is tough but you have to find your inner strength and think about you. We are only victims if we let ourselves be. You are a victim to your heart. It will get better. Give yourself time. You must have something to be thankful for. Focus on that.


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Tell the truth.  Your glass is not even close to being 1/2 full.  Tell her to help you get there.  I asked mine today about why I want the man back that hurt me so badly.  She said because I had an identity of being a wife and that I lost myself when he left me.  Hard to find yourself agan.  I understand.  I hope tomorrow goes well with your counselor.