No holiday for the family that was thrown out

Thank God for family. I am blessed to have brothers, and sisters, and their spouses, and kids. Will probably see my soon to be ex in-laws,  as they like me more than their daughter. And as always, My 2 great kids. Happy Holidays

This is my first holiday season since the divorce. Not dreading it too much but no looking forward to it. My family does not live close so it will be strange being alone on Thanksgiving and Christmas day. Her side of the family want to invite me over but don't want to cause a problem with their daughter. They did not want us to divorce and are torn about what she did. So it will also be different for them as much as it will be for me. I plan to keep myself busy with home projects that I have been working on. I do plan to have a good dinner Thanksgiving day and I'm decorating for Christmas, so trying to make it as upbeat as possible. I will go help serve dinner to the homeless so that will at give me some purpose on those days.

i hate the thoughts of the holidays too., my kids are adults and fully understand. my son will be back in iraq for his third tour and he voluteered to go to help me financially. so i won't have him except in my heart. and that is were the hoildays belong. hearts that are true to your loved ones,. hearts that are open to recieve the love that our true friends and faimlies are giving us. little things that show them we love them to. remember that things don't make happiness and our stbx's my look like they have it all but at the end of the day what they lost would have never fit under a tree anyway. take care of yourself and your family.

My husband left me after I returned home from a trip to visit my dad in Europe.  I didn't even know we were having a problems, before I left I decorated our second rest. and we were wroking on having our second child.  I found out I was pregnant in Europe, and when I returned home he told me he didn't love me anymore and didn't even want to work on it.  WIthin a month and a half, I was pregnant, miscarried, was treated horrifically and sent seperation papers.

I was looking forward to the holidays this year before all this happened to me.  I've been living in NC for the past 4 years and returned to spend time with my family in Oct.  I don't plan on going back until after the holidays.  I can't handle it, I am seeing 2 therapists right now.  I am just afraid it might hurt me in court, because he is claiming I am not letting him see his daughter.  I didn't do this, he did, I am just trying to deal with it and I need my family right now.  What do you guys think?  I want full custody, not joint

Amen to that..I hate the holidays...too much stress! KLAS~ just do the best you can. Your kids understand and will be happy that you are there with them.

No one said it would be easy.  I'm not having a fun time over here either.  I wish I could just fast forward through the holidays.  Just get on with the summertime.