25 years of on and off cheating

I was cheated on once (for several months) and don't really know now if its over.  I wonder with all the deceit involved with cheating if they will say what you want to hear to string you along.  I have decided if I find out it is still going on after I was told it's over I will file and there will be no going back.  It's a very cruel act and if a person can do that repeatedly and have not taken steps to get help then they either really don't love their spouse or enjoy the thrill too much to give it up.

Personally I think cheating is a weakness of character.  But when someone is a serial cheater I don't think you can change that.  They like the rush, the control.  Sorry but in your case as well as mine I don't think they can change.  Some people who do it once yes it was a mistake and with work will understand why.  But serial cheaters they just are narcisstic fools who live in the moment and don't really care who they hurt.  Just my opinion.

Your going to get many answers here with that question,  just remember ! Do people really change ? We want to think so cause we love them and theres nothing wrong with that... If you told me that after 30 yrs of marriage you didn't love him I would think Yea right!  Listen take it from someone who knows....Don't spend time trying to stop loving him just allow your self to think of the good times you guys had.  Yes that probably sounds stupid but it takes more energy to dislike or hate someone then to accept it for what it is or who he is....Believe me that took me a long time to understand....I'm not trying to say don't be mad, but use that energy for other avenues.....