Meeting with the ex & pc tonight

Even if you are 'falling apart emotionally ' on the inside...portray a strong, independant, voice of reason on the outside...
Let him see 'the new you' even if hats not the case. o;d your shoulders and head high...Because this is your goal right?
I have found that if I do this, it is only the person I want to be....and have come to be...
Don't give im the advantage of TLW...YOU take it!
Good Luck Sweetie!
Terri

lgoodgal,
thanks for the kind works. you are so right about everything. i must look past all this and move forward. next week will be the big test when i have to sit in the court.

Some of these people seem to be made from the same paper doll cut out sheet (the ex's and stbx's)...

I just realized how cynical and narcissistic my stbx really is. His family and friends will never know all that really happened or my side. The lies, deception and cynicism he creates simply amaze me. It is truly disgusting. Your ex's behavior seems to be a lot like his.

If you can muster up looking at him - look through him... or over him but appear to be looking his way. When I was in plays and musicals we were taught to look out over the audience. To them it appeared we were looking at them but we were actually looking over them. There is on occasion peeks and direct eye contact. 

When you have that direct eye contact - you are looking at a baby in diapers or a stranger you have just met who is attempting to negotiate what should happen in your childrens life. This stranger doesn't have a leg to stand on, so be strong and watch him wobble. Stay strong for you and your children and negotiate knowing you are the stable loving parent in their lives. Be strong in who you are.
 
He is not the man you once knew. Take heart and know how special and important you are to your children. How much they love you and face this stranger with dignity and confidence.

Blessings and strength to you as you deal with this stranger in your midst.

sunflower,
   you are so right. he sometimes forgets the kids birthdays too. does not know what they like and dislike. so thank you for all your comments. they do help. thanks

You shouldn't let him control you! You know what you do and how much work you have done and are still doing to raise your children, he doesn't. I bet if you asked him really specific questions about his kids he wouldn't have a clue.

yeah, he is a loser. i will not let him control me anymore.

Perhaps he's lied so much and for so long that he doesn't think he's lying. Ugh!! That must be so frustrating for you to listen to.