HELP!!

I have been married for almost 12 yrs. We have 2 boys and I am miserable. I daily feel like I am walking on eggshells and so are my boys. My husband coaches them in sports and plays with them, but heaven for bid they do something that gets on his nerves or that he doesn't like. He is the same with me. I have had to change who I am so that I do not make him mad or press one of his buttons. He takes medication for "anxiety and depression", but I think something is not right in his head. I truly think I hate him. He tells me he wants a divorce and that he is taking my kids and that I can't stay in the house. I feel trapped. I was a stay at home mom up until 5 years ago when I started substitute teaching. 2 years ago I started selling real esate. I don't make a steady income and I don't make enough to support my boys and I. HELP!!!!!! I just wanted to add that he has been without the medication before and he was the same. Also we have attended counciling and he got up and walked out and refuses to go back.

by jchance5778 2 Posts
Posted on 12/25/2007 8:49 PM

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He may need different medication. He should see his doctor and tell him what this medication does to him. Sometimes you have to try different meds. It took me 4 times to get the right one that works for me. As for staying or leaving, that is up to you hon. What do you really want in your heart? If you want to stay, he HAS to agree to get help. If you want to leave, make sure you have a Plan. Go and see a lawyer, or call one. There are many that give the first consultation free. Is your name on the house deed? If so, you should be able to get money from that. Plus after the divorce, or legal separation, he will have to pay child support and possibly alimony. I also agree with Vicki - you are a strong woman. Once you decide what you want and what you want to do, you can and will do it! All the best!

by ncshoppe 24 Posts
Posted on 1/15/2008 3:16 PM

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If you can handle him for all these years, you can handle anything. being a single mother is hard, but not as hard as what it sounds like you have been dealing with. you're stronger than you think. you (and your kids) deserve a better life than walking on eggshells. but first, i would try counseling. see if things can improve.

by Vicki 856 Posts
Posted on 12/26/2007 11:07 AM

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I would advice you to try to convince your husband to stop taking these pills. My husband also used to be on depression pills and I could say how much he was different every time he'd take a pill - he'd get violent and angry, I also felt like i had to walk on eggshells round him. If you can, ask him to stop taking these pills for a while and see what happens. If he doesn't change, then it will be better for you and your boys just to be far from him.

by Fairy 25 Posts
Posted on 12/26/2007 7:47 AM

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