Took the advice i needed to

DJ, Canary-

Do you guys open doors just for ladies who need to be shoved out the door, or do you do the chivilrious thing?  I'm looking for a good, old fashioned gentleman.....

Canary, I believe you just might be onto something there. 

D, I'll get the door.

Not wanting to sound starnge but this person appears to be one of our stbx's who could not find justification for their behaviour

You know Hazel, you are absolutely right.

Human beings are pack animals. We do run in cliques (the proper spelling btw). Like runs to like.

If you don't feel like you 'fit in' with this particular group of folks, find another group where you do feel comfortable.

Here, let me be nice enough to hold the door open for you. I believe the "bitter, ignorant, other woman" group still has a spot left for you.

Personally, I strongly urge you to seek some anger management therapy, pronto. You certainly behave like you need it.


-toodles-

strange set of issues here - think I'll go read hazeleyes statement and see if I can understand it better.

I'm with you Animator, I have'nt got a clue.

am i the only one who is lost here?

I believe it's cliche, and real. One more day of craziness. ONE MORE DAY! Then do what you want.

I would agree with paula1, if you don't mind me asking, why would you want to date someone who is not officially divorced? It really boggles my mind that the new woman in these situations have issues towards the ex and the relationship is not even done yet. Let the relationship die and run its course before you get involved and have an opinion. I am not being harsh and apologize if its coming across that way. I am in a similar situation, however, I am a very nice and understanding (probably too understanding) ex. Yet his new girlfriend can't seem to get over her issues. The biggest thing I want to say to her is " You knew what you were getting into so don't blame me for not being able to deal with it. If you not comfortable, back up, and give us some room to end this once and for all." Wouldn't you want that same respect/space if the shoe was on the other foot?

P.S Don't get me wrong I do know that there are some loonies out there, and in those cases, from what I have seen, those people aren't going anywhere, so you either have to deal or run away. Goodluck!

I was in a similar situation.  Except the man I was dating had been divorced for several years and when he started dating me his ex went nuts.  She stated I had broken up their marriage and then the harassment began.  I have restraining orders on her, she changed her email address 4 times so she could harass me.  It had gotten so bad that I honestly feared for my kids because of the emotional damage she was causing her own children.  After dating him for a while I recently walked away from him telling him I was no longer going to allow myself to be harassed by her even though I really cared about him.  I recently received something in the mail from her attorney stating she was filing a motion for terroristic threatening against me because I was calling and harassing her client.  I haven't spoken to this woman and my attorney recently pulled my phone records and email account and forwarded them to her attorney who actually called me and apologized for her clients behavior.  Why?  There were no outgoing emails or phone calls to her number of any number or email address she has.  There are several incoming calls and incoming emails but nothing outgoing.  She is a loon!  I did not need this crap!  I assure you that you do not need it either!

divorce is a difficult and passionate issue.  my suggestion would be to walk away from this man until he is well past his legal proceedings and deep into recovery.   as you well know, healing takes time.  he's not there yet.   and she obviously isn't either.