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Husband wants my attorney to call his attorney

Bomb was dropped on my head today when I got an e-mail from my husband that said he saw an attorney and wants mine to call his.  I had seen one months ago just to ask questions and I did tell him last week I had seen one.  Well I guess that gave him the strength to find one for himself.

 

So I called mine and when she heard the name of his she said she could not represent me because she does not work well with his.  Said I would save money using someone else because they can never agree. She recommended another one and a friend of mine that is an attorney said she was very good.  I have to now start over.

 

My question is should I tell him to file the papers and then contact my attorney?  By the time he is ready I should have an attorney.  That way I will be able to see what is on his table  (child support, custody, all that stuff).  I am the one that does not want the divorce although now I see that I should get one.  Why would I want to be with a man that does not want to be with me???  I can answer that question.  I still see the man I fell in love with and the man I married and trusted.  I just want to go back in time.

 

Wow you really think you go through bad times and they really get worse.  I am so down.

 
by 123   798 Posts 
Posted on 11/17/2008 11:30 PM
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I hope you got a lawyer, yes they make a living off of us but they are their to make sure you get a fair outcome.  I sound sad but the cost also gets factored into the final settellement.  You didn't ask or want this but you have to look out for you now, that may sound harsh but as I am learning it is true.  At least with a lawyer you can report anything stupid he might try and the lawyer being a non-combatant will see through the junk.
by Jamesalone   827 Posts
Posted on 11/30/2008 9:14 PM
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123,

       Honey, It will get better.  I remember wanting to go back in time, But I really think we make decisions we were meant to make...we'd probably end up in the same place anyway.

     Definitely get yourself another lawyer.  As for the other legal questions, I'll leave that to Spaz.  I, too, had seen a lawyer 1st to learn what my options and rights were.  If you were clear headed to do that, then you will be fine throughout the whole terrible experience. 

     Just remember the strength you have been showing in your posts and the strengh you have given to others here.  We here to give that strength back to you!

((hugs))
by angielou   1025 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2008 11:48 AM
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123, having filed myself back in September, I feel for you on this one. I have not wanted the divorce either but you need to make sure you and your kids are going to be ok. I looked at it this way, I didn't end the marriage, he did. I am only making sure my kids get taken care of. In my state, it is a no fault state. I don't want to give you bad advice legally so I won't give it. Hang in there. Spaz said it gets darkest right before dawn or light or something like that. She is right. It will get worse and you will have us to vent to and help you through it. Once you come through that, you will start to feel better. I felt better taking some control. I still had the emotional upheaval but I felt better than I would have if I had not have taken some action. It is a good thing your lawyer was honest with you. It will save you down the road. Hang in there. You are a strong person and you will make it through this.
by militaryp   577 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2008 7:10 AM
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you also know where the legal answers board is if you have any questions in that regard...I'll be happy to help you.
by spaznskitz   4947 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2008 3:26 AM
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If custody of the children might even remotely be an issue - then you will want to file first to ensure you are given temp custody of the chidren - and possibly control of the marital residence.

by spaznskitz   4947 Posts
Posted on 11/18/2008 3:25 AM
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