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So very sad and confused

After some arguments to witch I always believed were the ups and downs of a new marriage(2 years), he finally confess to cheating with his ex girl a woman that dooring our courtship he express hatred for because she lied cheated and almost cost him to loose his job. He was married before and out of that union he has 2 girls, but because the divorce was so "war of the roses" he had to file for bankruptcy. For him I moved from Florida were I had A grate job and a grate life; the change was difficult for me to assimilate, but I made it. I have maxed out my credit cards to buy what we needed for the apartment provide to us by his job (new city and new life) and also to pay for the wedding; and just wen you think it can not get worse I loose my job. Now he tells me to get out, that he loves me, but he is no longer in love with me and living in the same apartment would be hell for him. We have no children together, but I have nothing, all the money we both made was used to pay for the attorney in his bankruptcy, his child support for his daughters and the debts of the credit cards. I have no money and nowhere to go . One day he cant be around me and the next he calls me sweetie, baby and my love. I have put up with a lot, the fights, the words, the emotional ups and downs, but cheating devastated me. I am scared and confused because I love him so much. I gave it all up for him, left it all behind; for a man that promised to always love me. can he make me leave, should I forgive him and stay. what can I do and where can I go.

by chely   2 Posts 
Posted on 12/25/2007 1:24 AM
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He probably can't make you leave, but a lot depends on your local laws, who's on the lease and several other answers I don't have. I would recommend talking to an attorney. I know you're broke, but if you can find one you can afford it would be a great help to you. If you're unemployed, you obviously need work. I'd recommend finding a job soon. Maybe not the "perfect" job, but something you can do to get back on your feet. As for the forgiving, well, that's up to you. I can't make answerers for what you hold in your heart. It sounds like he's done very little to earn your trust. Still he is your husband. I wish I had better answers to wrap in a gift and say "Merry Christmas, " but I don't. Whatever you do, I'm sure you'll be strong and can make it. You made a move for your husband. That takes guts and strength. If you use that strength to take care of yourself, you'll be fine.
by Robert-Boyd   4233 Posts
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