I filed and he wants to get help now......

I filed last Friday & it's been a week of no talking to arguing to actually listening to what I was saying to him...He was in disbelief...As some of you have been following my story it was a difficult decision for me to make.....

He says he doesn't want a divorce and loves me & the kids, I don't think he actually thought I would go through with it..

He never thought he had a problem, that it was ok to be a controlling, emotional, verbal abuser....Well as of this weekend he has come to realize  I don't want my 4 kids and myself to live like this anymore. I told  him I have appointments for the 4 kids to go to a counseling to evaluate them for the situation were in..I also told my oldest son who says he's not going that he will go even if he just sits there they will get a reading from him that way...he just smiled .I do think he will go.

Now my question to you is now that my husband knows I'm serious about this whole situation, he asked me who he could go talk to, I told him thats his job to find someone,if he's that serous in making things work he needs to find his own help,my main concern is my kids ,then myself...so do you think that if he goes for help things could get better and if so what are the procedure for stoping a divorce..

I told him it's not going to happen over night it will take work for all involved..I also told him  if  he's not happy with himself  he can't make anyone else happy.