How do you get over denial?

Time is what it takes..you will go thru some stages of things. We all have been there. I am not sure who it was but someone posted in here the stages of divorce and they are right~
Step by step..day by day...it will get easier , you will heal and become stronger.
Stay on this site.There is much support and help here!

I am in no position to give advice, but will say that I am also in denial.  My husband left me for another woman and refuses to admit it saying they are just friends and she gives him a place to stay.  He says we will find our way back, he just needs to live right now.  Meanwhile I am working two jobs, have two kids and tons of bills.  He works part time and lives with a woman that allows him to come and go as he pleases.  I believe she also gives him money.  If she were not in the picture our lives would be fine.  So, I know how you feel and I hope it's true what they say about time.

It will take time to get thru becuz there are so many different stages to divorce until you finally reach acceptance and moving on.  I know you probably don't want to hear that, but it will take patience on your part to get thru this hurdle, and it hurts like hell to.  It hurts to realize that the person you spent a great deal of time with is a perfect stranger to you now and hurt you like noone has hurt you before.  It's hard to understand why they do what they do and hurt people, sometimes I feel that some people aren't meant to be faithful to just one person for the rest of their lives, or they have so much low self esteem they have to go out seeking more attention or make sure someone else out there finds them attractive before they leave the comfort zone of the spouse.  I don't know why people hurt other people like this--but I know that by coming on here and venting and getting it out of your system and not holding it inside will help alot.  If you can find a local divorce support group system in your area, that will help to becuz you will see there are other people out there going thru the same thing as you--but maybe some people are going thru worse situations.  It helps going to a support group, I went and I'm glad I did, because it does take awhile to get over this betrayal and bitterness.  But you need to go thru the stages and get over the bitterness or else it will eat you up inside like a poison and you won't be hurting him or the other woman--you will only be hurting yourself in the long run!!  You will get over the denial in your own special time--becuz right now you are grieving your marriage and the man you thought you knew for so many years.  Everyone grieves and goes thru the stages at different speeds than other people.  Just by having your friends and family to support you and a support group to go to, will help out alot!!  Good luck to you and make sure to take care of yourself right now!

That is going to take time, and you will get mighty tired of hearing that word, time! But it will happen, and you found a good starting point here! Writing and venting has helped me see things for what they are and taught me ways to deal with the denial! Reading about what others are going through has been helpful, takes your mind off yourself for a minute, and may even find giving advice helps you to take it! My heart goes out to you and what your dealing with right now, I wish I had the magic words that would ease your pain! Just know your not alone and you can share your thoughts and feelings here anytime!