Married to the Military

I am and have been married for 5 1/2 years now. My husband is active duty but on recruiting duty now. i think our marriage may be coming to the point where I cannot reach him anymore. He comes home from work and gets right on the computer and does not get off till later at night when he is ready for bed. He plays an online role playing game....at one time i played it with him. I have slowly stopped playing.  Whenever I try to talk to him I get the "sigh" and the I'll listen while I type in the game response. I can never get him t fully listen to me. I have been tellling him for quite some time I am unhappy but he seems not to care. It is to the point where I feel abandoned in my own house. At one time this apartment used to be filled with love and laughter not it is filled with strangers' voices out of computer speakers. I really want to talk this over with him and try to work things out but I think he may not want to which is why I keep getting the treatment I get. I am lost and want to know what other steps to follow. We have went to counseling but he stopped, saying "it didnt help". I don't knwo what else I can do I really love him and wantt his to work but how do I knwo if it is mutual?  What would you do ?