Oh man what a good feeling

Holy COW!, Today pulling out of Wal mart. I was drawn to a nice lady, actually strutting, but with no smile on her face. I said "Smile why don't ya", and when our eyes met. I recognized her. My best friend from High School, We talked for a few seconds, and she said call me, so I did, we shared our stories, and I found out, I am not a bad looking fellow.

Now, I will agree that a rebound, can't happen, but all of these people my age are in the same boat, and it seems we all have singfle stamped on our foreheads. What gives?

That's what I mean, maybe the right time, in time, but I saw the true guilt in my ex lovers eyes, and I knew it weighed upon her, so even though I can't save my marriage, I could give her a little peace. It actually felt good to say "I forgive you" and I actually think she needed it. How often do you get to do that? I know I did the right thing. In all this bad I am supposed to claim as my fault. I actually, might have saved a few tears. She told me how she's changed her life, and that I must do the same. She has forsaken all the bad in her life, and I know, I could go to church, and become a different person, but could I deny the person(stbx)) of the same forgiveness? Only to find out that I truly loved her?

Because the hurt is still to new. Give it more time and you will be able to forgive  and move forward. My ex will never ask me to forgive him because he can't admit he's done anything wrong. That's  alright I forgive him so I can be free to move ahead in my life.

Well. i get that I guess, but I have not seen this person in more than ten years. and I instantly forgave her because she really needed it. I got past that a long time ago, but when she asked for forgiveness, I actually came to tears. I guess going through the divorce with my STBX, I was just already at the limit. I just broke right then. I mean there is nothing more that i want, than my stbx is to wake up.

Instead she is propositioning men, and fishing, for a partner. A hook up, is better said. That's where she is. I can not stop it, but I will never allow myself to be her slave again. How  can I forgive a past relationship, and can't do the same for my wife, is what I'm asking

You seem to be headed in the right direction in that you want to forgive her. That is awesome. As for the why won't she ask you? Probably because she thinks she is justified in her actions and feels she was /is in the right. Hopefully it will come for her and she will ask you. But you know, you don't have to be asked to forgive someone to do it. It will release you from many things once you can come to that point.