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Hi everybody, Ad me to the list of fools... My wife and I have been married for almost three years. We are now separated and have been for 4 months, but my wife still talks like she is in love, and wants to be together with me... Anyway, she has a Myspace profile that I was friend on, well about three months ago she booted me, told me it was an accident, but wouldn't let me back on. So I did a little searching around yesterday, and remembered an old email address she used to use, so I typed it in, and low and behold there a picture of my wife with a different name. (hidden account, not her primary) Well for laughs, I typed a password that I knew she used every once in a while, and sure enough, it let me in... Wow was all I could say, and about fell over... She only had a couple of guy friends, but it was enough to make me sick... She was listing herself as divorced, and had pictures of my stuff, that she was taking credit for... House, toys and so forth... So I clicked on the messages, Wow... She had a couple of different guys she had been talking to over the past 17 months. Guys that she invited. She had one local guy, and another that was from another city about 500 miles away... The local guy she was sending messages, and talking to on the phone... Right under my nose... The distant guy, she actually was telling him she loved him, and would prove to him by wiring him the money so that he could come up to our home town to be with her, he even was proposing to her... I was appalled...We had never been apart long enough for anything to happen, that's what amazed me, how she could have gotten away with anything. She did meet the guy that was local before work one morning. But nothing was ever said if anything sexual came of it... Anyway, I'm just amazed that she could do this to me right in our own house...You think you can trust someone, and they turn around and pull stuff like this... Ironic thing is she always told me no secrets, that was always one of her big sayings... The other thing I found funny, she was on my myspace page (she has my password) back in august, and there was a female (don't even know her) that left a comment for me, she told her to quit leaving comments to her husband... Other funny thing... She asked me last week if I had been looking for other women. I told her no, and I haven't, one is more than I can deal with at a time...So anyway, I haven't said anything yet to her. I thought I'd let it sit for a while... The guys will be in for a surprise though when they look at her profile. I changed a few things :) What I'm curious to know though is would any of this be admissible in Divorce court??
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It's so weird how the cheatin' spouse always seems to refer to marital property as 'his' or 'hers.' My stbx used to call our house 'his house,' for example, even though it wasn't. And he referred to his lover's marital property as 'her vacation home."
Funny, though, he's not living in that house any more, and she'll soon be selling the place by the lake. The dynamics of the situation are probably clearer now, I imagine. Alas, decisions must be made.
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No the only people that know I have edited it, is just here. She doesn't even know yet. At least she hasn't said anything yet. Wouldn't be to hard to put it back to what it said, I only changed her status from Divorced to Married and has been for over two years, and changed a few of the comments on the pics to reflect what was true, not lies.
I haven't contacted any of the guys that she was talking to yet...
Whats funny though, on her regular myspace page, she put a new saying up today about being honest, and up front, and keeps telling me she has no secrets :) Right...
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keep all of that stuff,print it out give them to your lawyer,he will want to at least look at them,I know from experience,even if you don't think it would be evidence or someone else says so,just do it & get it anyway you will never know unless you show all of it to your lawyer,you want everything to make your case look better. is there proof that you edited it,besides on here? it's hard to prove that
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I'm really sorry for what you're going through, but be assured that at least she will now be playing those games with someone else and not you. It sure messes you up with the whole trust issue, but realize that there are good people out there who don't lie or cheat, live by their word and are trustworthy. She is really the exception. I know I often wonder why people get married in the first place if they don't mean the vows they take. Some women will marry because they want their fairy tale wedding, not because they really love the guy. I'm still trying to figure out why the men who cheat get married. In some cultures, they marry someone just like their mom who will be a good mother and wife, but never signing up to be faithful. Those are the ones who have a series of girlfriends. In some cultures, the women just have to take it or they're out on the street begging for food, but why would a woman in this country settle for a married man? I think they're fooling themselves. It's a rare married man who leaves their wives for them. It's usually the wife, like me, who tosses them out. Don't let an experience with someone like your s2bx taint your belief in marriage. I keep the faith because I'm surrounded by good men who would never cheat on their wives.
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wow, my husband deleted all the pics of us and of me from his My Space. and he is now listed as divorced....ouch that hurt. i got the message . i told him to please submit the papers because i will not. not at my expense. how foolish some people are they lie and cheat but, in reality they are only trying to live a lie. i just hope no one is stupid to fall for that piece of work ever again. he is the type of person i would not wish on my worst enemy, well maybe my worst enemy.
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