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Christopher36...

...I'm going to assume that you, like most of us, won't have the strength to stay away but will come back to see what the effects of your actions are, especially since your actions were so dramatic and aggressive.

 

I just watched you delete all your wall-postings in real-time, months of loving support burned because you didn't like the responses you got to your most recent blog.

 

You are out of control and need serious help.  You clearly suffered either serious abuse or neglect as a child, and your emotional life is a wreck.  Therapy can really, really help that.  I know because it has helped me.

 

You will continue to suffer and hurt because you have deep unmet needs that no one else will ever fill.  The pain of your current situation is bad enough as is, but it is even worse in your case because it aggravates pre-existing wounds. 

 

Your method for handling the pain you felt at everyone's response to your blog is incredibly unhealthy and is keeping you in a very, very dark place.  Your unhealthy coping strategies are destroying your life and will continue destroying it until you recognize that they aren't working and abandon them in favor of healthy strategies.  Therapy can help you do that.

 

You are not being victimized by the world, but by your own demons, and you need to make the adult decision to deal with those demons.  Make an adult decision to care for the hurting child you still carry around within you--the decisions you have been making only hurt that child more and isolate him further.

 

I really hope you seek the help you need.  Life is so much better after you do--I speak from experience.

 

Best Regards,

 

-A


by lenn   1164 Posts 
Posted on 11/12/2008 9:04 AM
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I have seen Chris say many good things to help people, I have also seen Lenn post some wonderful comments as well. Please Chris, don't take this as people are disrepecting you or talking behind your back. You have people on here that really care about you and are concerned for your well-being. I would hope that everyone on here would tell me that I needed something if they could see it. Anything to help, that is why we are all on here. People are not judging you. We are trying to help each other. Please, please, please take it that way and get some help. We want you to be ok...Doesn't matter what the causes are. You are hurting and you need help so that you can be the person you are meant to be...
by militaryp   577 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 10:59 PM
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Christopher, I appreciate what you are saying and had already determined that I would request that the moderators review and remove this as they see fit.  However, I will point out that my actions were hardly done behind your back, and that was intentional.

I am sure you have very reasonable explanation for your actions--I have absolutely no doubt about that.  I had no doubt about that this morning--I expected that.  Your actions were immaterial, really--I wrote the same thing (minus the focus on your actions) this morning, but between the time I started typing and the time I hit "post", you had deleted your blog.  Yes, I firmly believe from the content and tenor of your posts, that you are harming yourself, and I took that directly to you--as I should have done--and you are not interested.  I.  I may have  violated community rules in the way I chose to do so, and for that, I apologize.
by lenn   1164 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 6:42 PM
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Chris -

I've watched you from the beginning - Lenn is actually right on target, I did it before and I'll continue to say it, you need help serious mental help.

 

This is not being said to you by so many people because they don't care - it's actually quite the opposite.

No doubt you probably had a few choice words for me for my answer to your "to hell with everyone" blog, alas, I never got to see it because you deleted them.

You are totally out of control - and I'm going to guess that the person who set you off, who chose to end their friendship with you, that is a big reason - you are far too out of control for most people to handle, especially when they are dealing with problems of their own.

Do you want your child to grow up learning how to handle situations the way you are handling things in your life right now? With anger, avoidance and lashing out?

It's OKAY to admit you are broken and need help to get fixed. People have broken from far less than you have endured the past few years alone...you aren't weak Chris, lost, but not weak. If you don't teach your child by example that when things are going out of control it is okay to get help, then where is that going to leave her as an adult, what life skills are you setting for her right now?

I really hope you stop being so stubborn and get the help you need.

And that is said out of deep concern and caring for you.

by spaznskitz   4950 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 6:41 PM
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I suggest , as christopher said that if you have a problem with something that he said etc then you report him to 360. Lenn~ To do what you are doing in the manner that you are is unacceptable. I am assuming you are divorced ot divorcing? Everyone deals with things in a different manner..I am sure that all of us including you and I , have said things or done things when under duress. I have seen chris's posts and blogs...He has helped others in here . This is a place to get help, to tell others how you feel and help others. That is what he has used this site for . I again suggest that you leave him alone. Report him to 360 if you feel that he is out of line and they will check it out. But please do not continue to do things in the manner that you are~
by mtnvly   2544 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 6:40 PM
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lenn,

 You are wrong in your assumption to my actions taken simply because you failed to ask me about my actions first.

To why I have taken the actions I have is again, simply... No ones concerns other than my own and to that I owe no explanation to.
 
If you have concerns about my actions as being armful to me or others, simply report my actions to the owners of this site instead of disrespecting me and going behind my back to post your unproven thoughts against me and my actions. Your behavior, not mine, is the one that should be in question here, for I have done nothing against anyone with my actions, what about you and this post of yours?
 
I am asking directly that any further concerns that you have regarding me are directed at me or the owners of this site first, before posting things about me behind my back.
by CHRISTOPHER36   692 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 5:06 PM
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