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When did you take off your wedding ring?

Just curious as to when you took of your wedding ring(s). When you seperated? When the first person moved out? When the divorce was final? or somewhere in between!

by cathyishurting 1 Post
Posted on 11/11/2008 5:41 PM

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"...bought a watch..." - You can still do something about this wishful thinking and have positive results to boot...! Sell the ring and apply the funds towards the new watch on your wrist...

by bp 1239 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 3:43 PM

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"...wear..." - I took mine off once she asked for the divorce; and, she wears both rings whenever she wants to because she states that they are "...too beautiful to leave in a drawer unused..." And, here we are over 5 months after the final decree and her being less than two months shy of delivering a baby (...not mine for any that would ask...) with this type of routine...

by bp 1239 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 3:38 PM

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I stopped wearing my ring about a week before the drama unfolded. That was when he took off over the weekend and didnt come home until 530pm on Sunday. That was the weekend I put my wedding ring away. The funny thing is, we paid for our own rings. I read somewhere on here about re-de-signing it as a freedom ring. I really like that idea alot. But-I think I will just buy myself a new "Freedom" ring.

by Dignified 163 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 3:32 PM

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I took mine off when he sat down across from me in a public restaurant and talked about the divorce. The restaurant was full of hometown friends who watched me struggle to hide my tears unsuccessfully. It was degrading and the rings no longer meant a thing to me.

by CathyJean 128 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 3:11 PM

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I took my engagement ring off after finding out he had an affair. A year later after I decided on divorce and actually filed I took the band off.

by Vixen480 19 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 1:49 PM

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I took mine off the day my STBX waggled her naked ring finger at me. That was about a week after she moved out.

Now I'm back to wearing my men's version of a "cocktail ring" I have always loved but wasn't allowed to wear because my previous wife "bought it for me" (but you can guess who really paid for it, can't you?).

I hope she gags every time she sees it!

by jhs 555 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 11:47 AM

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I had lost my rings. I looked; and never did find them. Over a year later he replaced them with a band. I wore it for a month. But the last two years was to much for me to feel connected. The marriage had already taken it's downward spiral. So I just didn't feel like keeping it on.

by bleedinglovepain 760 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 11:44 AM

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I waited till I moved out. Once I was no longer living with my STBX it just didn't feel right anymore. He took his off the day I moved out. I waited a few days but not many.

by Jan29 11 Posts
Posted on 11/12/2008 11:34 AM

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As soon as I found out my ex had lied and cheated on me and he told me he didn't love me anymore I took off my ring and actually I took it to a pawn shop and sold it. He stopped wearing his wedding ring a long time ago--I questioned him about that and he gave the excuse that he can't wear it to work anymore--because he works in a factory-like I was born yesterday. So I found his ring in his drawer and took it out to the driveway and ran it over with my van!! Greatest feeling in the world!! PRICELESS!! :)

by freedom 1011 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 11:03 PM

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I took mine off when I finally realized my stbx was not going to change her mind about divorcing; when I moved into my apartment. I do remember that I was extremely pissed off when I pulled it off. It sits in a box in my closet.
It's kind of ironic, because I lost my original ring at the beach a few years before (I had lost weight at it slid off in the surf). I freaked out because I felt it was a symbol of our marriage. I felt horrible that I lost it. We bought a new one, complete with the original inscription. If I'd known then what I know now... I would have bought a watch.

by DivDadinFLA 58 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 9:39 PM

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I took mine off the day I moved out. I knew once I walked out the door that I wasnt going back no matter what. The relationship and any hope of salvaging it was lost.

by oneandonly 6 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 9:35 PM

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I took mine off the day stbx walked out and left his on the bed.

by ptrc 164 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 9:22 PM

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I only wear mine at work. I take that back, I only wear in on work days. I'm mixed on the principal of the thing. On one hand I'm still married so I still wear the ring. On the other hand, I know the marriage is over so it has lost it's symbolism. I also wear it because my cheating wife stopped wearing hers and I want to show her that even now, with the marriage almost finished, I still value the sanctity of marriage more than she ever did!!!!!

by Wounded 9 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 8:48 PM

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I took mine off when I knew something was going on with my wife, and haven't put it on since. I was pretty sure by that point, so I didn't see the need. I was right and knew there was no real meaning to them anymore.

by buggaboo 1172 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 7:59 PM

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I only wear mine to work anymore. The busybodies talk and talk if they catch wind of something, and only one person at my job knows my husband and I are heading toward a divorce. We're not even living apart yet but I just can't look at them on my finger and be stung with the memory of what they once meant. It's certainly not to make people think I'm single. He still wears his...at least when I see him.

by Maleficent 877 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 7:47 PM

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I took mine off about a month after separating when I realized the meaning of it was gone. I put it on each time I saw my wife after that, but then the last time I saw her, she was no longer wearing hers, so I stuck my hand in my pocket, slid it off, and haven't thought about wearing it since. I'll either never wear it again or begin wearing it the day we renew our vows. I wonder what I'll do with it if the former is the case?

by lenn 2653 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:58 PM

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correction. I meant to say he wasn't wearing his ring.

by Lisababy 124 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:39 PM

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I took mine off about 3 months after he left me. He showed up at my sister's house with all my furniture and belongings I had brought with me to the marriage. He was wearing his ring, the ring he tearfully told me he would never take off as he left. Funny thing is that when I started dating him, he was still wearing his wedding band from his second marriage, she had been killed in an accident 18 months before he meet me. He wore them for another 18 months when he finally took them off and asked me to marry him.

by Lisababy 124 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:38 PM

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I took my rings off ater i was divorced. I do still have the rings but they dont mean a thing to me. I may just sell them for some cash for my kids christmas gifts.

by cherbear 5182 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:30 PM

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I moved my wedding band to my other hand the day I took out a PFA against my stbx. The only reason I still wear it is that it was my dad's wedding band and it was given to me when he passed. I had it sized to be my wedding ring. So I wear it for sentimental reasons for my dad not the stbx.

by Cheydara 371 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:27 PM

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I never wore a wedding ring. I didn't need a ring to remind me I was married. Something in the metal always caused my fingers to turn green or black. I still don't wear any rings. I wear a small pair of screw back diamond studs because I wear a riding helmet. The helmet can't pull those out of my ears when I take it off.
My ex was working away from home when I filed. I received my divorce almost a year ago. Dec. 11-07

by trisha9054 4967 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 6:19 PM

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I took mine off when I realized my STBX was lying to me about wanting to stay together after finding out about the affair. I made her take hers off also. Told her she didn't deserve to have them on her hand.

by falcon81 377 Posts
Posted on 11/11/2008 5:45 PM

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