When did you take off your wedding ring?

My husband and I never really wore our wedding rings. He never did at all which I had no problem with, after all, he knew he was married and it is just a symbol. I would wear mine at work and when I was out and about. I always took them off when I came home, kind of like costume jewelry, I guess. Truly, they were just costume jewelry for our pretend marriage. After we separated I still wore them to go out. About two months ago I quit wearing them at all. I don't know about keeping them for our children. It seems like they have too negativity attached to them. I keep mine in my safe.

I took mine off the day he asked for the divorce.  I have not worn them since, although I still have them.  I'm keeping them for my daughter in case she wants them someday.

Of course, he lost his ring years ago - at Veterans Stadium during a Phillies game.  Kind of a metaphor for our entire marriage, really.

I took mine off a month before we separated. I told him he was a luxury I could no longer afford and slipped the ring off. He begged to stay; I gave in but the ring stayed in my jewelry box from then on. I take it out on occasion and admire it. It's gorgeous. But it wasn't my original...the original I haven't worn since the first time he cheated...never felt right knowing he put that on my hand 72 hours after sleeping with someone else.

I took off mine once I really knew it was over and I was ready to start telling people it was over. Don't take it off if you don't want questions.

I took mine off a few days after I left him, when I arrived at my parents home, because I didn't want to lose it in case things worked out. I wanted to take it off sooner.

I took my ring off the day he left....he had not worn his in years..the reason being it was dangerous to wear at work around machinery.  I went out the next week and bought my self a mother's ring that I call my Freedom Ring...after all, he left July 4!

I took my rings off the day I found out he was having an affair.  I did save them for my daughter though.

The moment I found out she had committed adultery. 4 months before the divorce was final. When I found out she was a skank it did not feel good on my finger any longer.

I had forgotten until I saw your question that I took mine off and have not put it on since the day that I decided that I was done and knew that we were headed to divorce; which was about a week before we decided as a couple to seperate.

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Thanks bp. I have asked her, she denies it was planned. However, i did not think about it much until i read this ? by kathy. It will not matter as our marriage is almost at its end. If there is someone else in her life our if she just had an affair I wish she would just admit it..

I still wear my rings.  I feel that the marriage is over, but we are still legally married(and living together, great fun...), so it feels like the honest thing to do.  I also am not ready to deal with people at work asking why I no longer wear the rings.  He bought the engagement ring, but we bought our own wedding rings.  He did not even want to get one at first.  Told me that he did not see the need.  His does not look like a traditional wedding band, so you might look at it and think it was just a cool ring.  I told him that if he did not get a wedding band, then I would not get one either.  That's when he gave in.  You would think that I would have gotten a clue from that exchange.  I see my wedding band, among other things, as a public statement to the world that I am a married woman.  I did not think that it was too much to ask for him to do the same.  Sigh.  I am not sure when I will take the rings off.  The question has been on my mind for a while.  I do not like to wear much jewelry and the only other ring that I wear is one that my mother gave me.

At first I put the ring on and off because my hope level was so high.  I completely took it off when I knew we were not married even though it was not on paper. He barely wore the past two years only wore it when I asked about it.

I miss my ring and I do feel naked without them.  I feel like a failure.  He also has given me a lot of nice jewelery over the years that I do not wear.

I have realized that I miss my ring not how are marriage was the last few years.  The ring ended up not meaning anything.  If I ever get married again I will only wear a gold band to show that I am connected to someone else.  I was way to in to the diamond and not the meaning of the ring.

I took mine off the night I threw him out. I cried half the night but I knew somewhere inside that he wouldn't be coming back. (I threw him out 4 days after he told me, only because I had asked for the consideration he not contact her from our home and he couldn't even do that.) It felt wrong to wear it at that point. Of course, my finger feels bare and there is a white ring where it was for so many years but its fading.

It took me about a week.

I was a semi-professional jeweler and tended to lavish my stbx with lots of jewelry - some relatively expensive - some things just "everyday" things.  She used to gloat and laugh that she had "loot" and never had "loot" before.  The engagement ring and band were just over 1.5 carats total weight.  Of course, I bought everything wholesale and made the rings myself.  After being together for 3 or 4 years, I bought her a jewelry armoir (a small piece of furniture where we could store our things and she could stash her "loot").  One night, while she was on a rampage, I locked myself in our bedroom, locked the door and slid the armoir (sp?) in front of the door.  She burst through the locked door and the armoir went flying, breaking into pieces and jewelry flying all over.  For weeks afterward, while I vaccuumed the bedroom, I would suck up different things with the tell-tale sounds of "clink blingy clink" as another earring or other item got sucked into the Heppa certified ( !! ) filter of the vaccuum.  She hadn't worn her ring in years... but demanded the "return" of her rings after we split, since, after all, I must have possession of them...  Gosh!  Couldn't be that they were lost or sucked into HOOVER OBLIVION forever!

I still have my ring and sometimes wear it on my right hand.  Why?  I have no idea...

I took mine off recently.  Couldn't face the questions at work at first, but have enough confidence now to deal with quick questions.  It symbolizes something that doesn't exist any longer but needed time to build up defenses against the onslaught of questions I'm now receiving. 

I still feel a little naked but not quite as badly as the first day.  Besides, I would hate to think of what the things the ring I gave her have seen lately.  Just not a part of me any longer.

I finally said to him one day after continual lying by omission, "Until you give me a good reason why I should wear these I'm taking them off." He never gave me a good reason to put them back on again. My daughter wants my engagement ring and anniversary band, I'm thinking of selling my gold band for cash. My ringer finger felt so empty for a long time.

As soon he left and the gates closed on our driveway.  I just knew he wouldn't be back this time. 
Last weekend  I picked up a ring I designed - it is my unwedding ring.  I love it.

Well, the day he asked me to move out. He let me know that he did not feel right wearing our wedding ring if we were separated so he took his off first and asked for mine. I just gave it to him. I cried so hard that day. Broke my heart because he did not want me any more and might have been that way for a while. I'm over that though. Why cry over someone who doesn't want you?
I know my son wants me. He is the only one I care for right now. Besides my family. He's the one who makes me strong.

"...planned..." - Have you asked her this question...? And, may I suggest that as you do find your way through this process called separation and divorce, will it really matter to you in the years ahead...? Wish you well...

i got home from work one afternoon, she was working out in the garage and playing with our kids. she came crying to me that the weights bend her ring and she tried to fix it and made it worse. after that she never  had one on. i kept wearing mine until one evening we were at a dinner having cocktails, we came home and continued to party. I asked here for the second time if it really was an accident? she took mine off. A month after that she walked out. Do you think she already had this planned ?

i took it off at 3am while talking to him on the phone.  he called from a hotel room saying he wanted a divorce, didn't love me and wasn't coming home. 

so, while standing in my kitchen in shock and on the phone, i slipped off the ring.

"...cocktail ring..." - This is very dangerous territory for me to venture into in light of my skewed sense of humor; and, considering the fact that you think she would "...gag..." everytime she would see it leaves me little room to go for the tasteless punchline...
 
(...Whewww... Some things are just better left unspoken... Let me just fix my shirt collar...)

I took mine off when she said that she wanted the divorce.  Most difficult thing for me and was a huge symbol of what I thought was my failure.  My giving up on the love we shared even though she had given up a long time before that.

I have lost both my original wedding band and its replacement after that. We then just kept buying $10 rings at festivals. Those were clear red flags I ignored ..........