Getting rid of the former spouses' personal possessions

you are not alone mine will not come and get his stuff either he took his daughters stuff and not his sons i dont get why people do the things they do.

I'm just happy to see that you display some sort of concern and can understand why you want her to come get her stuff.  My stbx has destroyed all of my personal things - pictures of my family - my son's (her step-son) toys - things I've had all of my life - just gone.  Time for me to travel light.

Please do what you need to do so you can move on, but try gently first, you'll be a much better person for YOURSELF by doing so...  It's really devastating to be on the receiving end of a destroyer in action.  I praise you for being able to even pack her things with a clear conscience and even a trace of concern for her well-being.  It shows you have a caring soul... be grateful for that!

You can't put it out on the street - you are somewhat bound by what is considered landlord tenant law when it comes to her things. You would be liable for reimbursemnt if anything happend to them if you kicked it all to the curb & the legal expenses would be much greater because you'd be in family court instead of small claims.

If your decree didn't give a specific date for her to get her things out by, you can send her a certified letter demanding the removal (give her 30 days) or you will put them in a storage facility. If she doesn't comply,  you put the storage in her name with her address and contact information, pay for the first 30 days - write her another certified letter telling her where her things are and how to retrieve them - and if she doesn't get them from the storage, it is her loss.

OR

for your daughters sake and showing amicability and a willingness to work with her - You may want to consider being a nice guy and renting a small u-haul and delivering everything to her....it gets the reminder out of your house and allows your daughter to see that you two aren't being hateful to each other (or at least trying not to)

Hi Bug.  Here is what I suggest...

If you had a half-way decent attorney, the settlement agreement or the divorce decree should say EXACTLY what happens with respect to the personal property that is marital property.  Review it with your attorney and find out what the order says to do in your specific cirucmstance.  Then do exactly what the order says -- no more, no less.  It's a kind thing to be accommodating to your ex.  But it's another thing to be not only "held up" from the vital point of getting on with your own life, not to mention having your ex come back at you to say you didn't do things right.  The language of the order and what your attorney say it means are something you should be able to justifably rely upon to move forward.

i agree with everyone else...you need to make this finalized and legal quickly.  my ex did the same thing. refused to pick up his stuff for weeks.

and then for years (and i mean four of them) he would just be in my house to pick up the kids and pocket stuff.

'oh, this is my book' and 'oh, i think this is my cd'.

there has to be a statute of limitations here right?

it's surreal to watch him pilfer thru my things and just pocket them. like my house is his store....

and it's sick, cuz it is actually his stuff i guess, but he didn't want them or take them or care at the time. 

so...yes, i'd move on this.

Can you deliver it to her?  Help her carry it to her car? Maybe she does not have room in her car? Have you talked about it with her? 

Most have been painful packing it up. I find bits and pieces of mine and I give it to him with his mail.