Why would STBX show up without notice?

Note to self: OK, jhs, try to be polite, now.

Response from self: Why?

Note to reader: See my "cast of characters" blog for acronym definitions if they're not obvious and you're interested.

Saturday promises to be a bit lonely when I get up. DD and NF are out of town, OF is busy all weekend doing stuff she needs to do, and the club is typically all but deserted (no pro football). But that's OK, it happens after all.

So when I get up, I check out what's happening on D360 (my favorite pastime, of late), and then hit the shower. OK, now the secret is out...I post a lot wearing my PJs before really getting up for the day!

Anyway, finish the bills, order some new toys on-line at Circuit City, and head over there to pick them up. Everyone has to have new toys when you're going through a divorce, after all. And besides, STBX took the cordless phones, leaving me with only my (corded) office phone the company bought for me. So a new phone or two was in the cards as well.

Picking up my cell phone before heading out, I see a missed call from the house where STBX is staying, but no voice-mail. Since we've agreed we can't be in the same place at the same time, and ditto for phone calls, I didn't bother calling back. Figured if it was important, they would've left a message or would call back.

Returning with my bag of new toys (yes, I even splurged and bought a new computer game...Fallout 3...I'll let you know later how I like it!), and a nutritious fast food lunch from Jack In The Box (Humm...JITB...should I add that to my unfathomable acronym list? Naw! :-), planning to eat and un-box toys, guess who's car is in the driveway?

My initial reaction was, quite simply, WTF? Come on, we agreed to never be at the house together again because of the attacks and verbal abuse. So she just comes down without letting me know? What if I had just gotten home before she arrived? I'm sure that'd be another reason for her to be angry... I can just hear it now... "Why did you ignore my call?" "Don't lie to me, you weren't in the shower, you never take a shower at 9:00, you know you just ignored my call!" Etc., ad nauseam.

Well, I predict the fire-works would have been impressive if I'd parked and gone in the house.

Choosing to avoid a 4th of July spectacular in October, I drove to the club and had a less-than-hot hamburger and a beer (or 5) for lunch. At least I ate the onion rings on the way (easy to handle while driving, and I absolutely hate cold onion rings).

Very "productive" afternoon; I set a new high score on one of the video games at the club. :-)

So, anyone have an answer to my "WTF would she do that" question?

I'm betting lack of respect, consideration, civility, and a desire to have more confrontation to fuel her anger, make her feel more justified, and therefore feel better about herself.

Comments making me feel more justified, and therefore feel better about myself, would be appreciated. As this is really pissing me off. Grrr...

Oh, wait, she's the "angry one". So strike the "Grrr".