Do you have a bitter and angry ex?

jhs - that's too funny.  When I left on this journey my friends and family gave me a going away party.  My niece gave me a great card which showed a woman (from the 40's) standing in the middle of the road with her hand up to her head with this thought --- "It will of course have to look like an accident!".  That just cracked me up.  It was perfect!

 

You are right!  NO more punching bag!

 

 

Hey, Mb, how about an envelope with a little white powder in it? Works from anywhere in the world! :-)

Mominny, I just comment on another blog with "divorce == stupid". It seems that "stupid == angry" kind of goes along with that.

My STBX was very adamant that she wanted a divorce. I finally gave up and agreed. And she immediately turned into the most angry, blaming, resentful person you could ever hope to never meet.

With us, we can't talk on the phone or in person without her engaging in verbal attacks. I'll confess when we were together, I had a very high tolerance for that. But now I don't have to put up with it any more, so I just arm the rocket launcher and start firing back with my own anti-tank rockets.

It's actually almost fun, watching her explode! :-) In reality, a well placed harmless fire-cracker of a comment has the same effect (and is much cheaper than a rocket).

So, yes, many others have had the same thing happen. My suggestion is to just "take it" until your divorce is final. In the meantime, have your counselor lend you a rocket launcher, or at least give you a small box of fire-crackers. In other words, have her/him enable you to let yourself react in a normal way when he is his normal nasty self; allow yourself to be angry at him, his stupidity, and his anger. And fire back with some of your own.

I you can get the right perspective on it, it can be almost fun. Because you're "playing him" the way he's played you for a long time. And paybacks can be fun!

Talk it over with your counselor. I'm on dangerous ground as we're not final yet, but I still feel enabled to respond this way. And it makes me feel better about myself. Which is a good thing.

Remember..."no more punching bag" [repeat chant until convinced].

Take care, and best of luck dealing with this jerk.

Yes I do have a very bitter and angry ex.  Which is interesting as he is the one who wanted out.  His great plan blew up in his face and I think that really has him mad.  So he took it out on me.  Thankfully  I no longer talk to him. 

What's funny is that he said he no longer wanted to talk to me because he thought I was "evil"!  He even threatened to get an order of protection against me which was pretty hysterical because I was in Tasmania at the time and am still in Australia.  I don't know what he thought I was going to do!  I hadn't even seen him for two months prior to that.  Hadn't talked to him on the phone for a month.  But his girlfriend had just dumped him and he had to take it out on someone.  Old habits die hard!  I used to take clients into court to get orders of protection and usually the Judge wanted a reason! : )  Don't know what he thought his reason was.  Still don't know what I did 7500 miles away.

So he let me know how terrible I was and that he never wanted to talk to me again.  Boo hoo!  That was one of the best gifts he ever gave me.  I could breathe again.