How do I cope?

Suker,
    I have been there...it will get better...but it will be raw for awhile.  When I am feeling down and crazy thoughts about them run through my mind (this happened this morn -- all related to holiday anxiety)  I watch movies...one DVD after the other.  When I get tired of movies I write...or talk with friends or find web sites like this.  Just keep busy and do not let them know it is getting to you...feel good and may we all find joy in our lives again.

I feel your pain suker, but the pain does decrease in time. Listen ....get a dog it's the best......;-)

It will get easier for you ..I promise.

my husband left me and went to his mistress bed the same night. i never knew he was cheating and she had told me over and over how they were just friends. i know those voices and images flash into your mind when you lest expect it. but remember it is not if karma will get you it is when. i walk my dog or excerise until i drop and talk to friends on the phone for hours. pm's do help you sleep but my doctor said they also are depressents that can cause you even deeper depression. talk to your doctor. better sleep aids are out there and if you need something to help your nerves then take it. this is the worst time in my life and i feel you feel the same way. find peace where you can and keep talking to people who truely love you. us to.

I haven't turned to alcohol and don't like the feeling I get after Tylenol PM or Benydryl. Melatonin doesn't leave the groggy feeling but I keep forgetting to buy it.

Time time time = writing and reading daily here...
what do you mean you ended with your wife yesterday. Does that mean the divorce is final or you moved out or it's done in your mind and you both told each other that it's over or you told her it's over.
Working out even if it's running in place and pacing around the house out of anger. Just do it...
You can do this.
When I tell you I am telling me so get it out of your system and write write write - read read read
Workout - even if it's running in place or pacing back and forth in the house. One time I was talking on the phone for an hour and paced the entire time. When I was done with the call it occured to me I didn't stop moving. I actually felt better rather than just plopping on the couch and throwing a pity party with me myself and I. I've done that too but it didn't help as much as typing to you is helping right now.
I went to a outdoor concert one night. They asked, how many - I replied, well there's me, myself, and I - three wrapped up in one. They giggled and gave me a three for one ticket deal. I forced myself to get out.
Breathe in and breathe out. Take some ideas from everyone but keep busy. Writing here takes up a lot of my time when I don't feel like going out of the house.
Working on my divorce occupied a lot of time.
I am now forcing myself to eat something every day
Go through my personal belongings and start packing
You don't want someone who is physically or emotionally spending their time with someone else.
You deserve more than that out of life.
You can make it through this.

This is how I have gotten through the last 6 months with my husband gone;

*counseling
*working-out
*busy with friends
*wine
*this web-site
*changing furniture around the house
*Tylenol PM to help me fall asleep
*focusing on kids doing fun activities with them

Hang in there the days have been slow but the months have gone by fast.  It has to be better next year.

Keep yourself busy or call a friend.  It's ok to feel the way you are, but don't let it eat you alive.  You are much better off without her.