Suffering with it all...

I know you are angry but now is the time to make sure you and the kids are alright, he doesnt seem to care and think if theis as a blessing for you and the children. The other woman is going to get the same thing that he has done to you and his children, dont start feeling sorry for yourself, this isnt your fault. It will get better because he is out of the state so this makes it a little easier for you. Let him file for the divorce since he asked for it, and when he does make sure you advise them for the cheating part too, take him for everything that he's worth, child support, spouse support, and also for all of the stress he has put you though, then money wont be a issue for you and children anymore. Good luck!!

That IS cruel. It's as if he's trying to keep saying it out loud so he can reiterate that it's over. I honestly would tell him not to talk about her anymore. It's bad enough that you have to go through a divorce, but really, thinking about what he's doing with this woman has to be driving her crazy. If he has the money to fly to see her and to court her, then he has the money to spend on a divorce. You don't actually have to spend much money to divorce if you get an aribitrator. Do it when he's back in the States and get it over with. I'm sure that with a disabled child, he will still support everyone, but you may have to think about working (either out of the home or in some other capacity) because you need to support your children as well. If you worked in a daycare for disabled children, you could spend the day with your disabled child and use your skills to help others as well...or rely on your college degree if you have one...it just depends on how much you can do with a disabled child in the home... I wish you the best of luck.

We agreed he would take the job in London and he moved in January 07 while the girls finished up school. I found the house and he moved in and we packed our things and they were shipped by boat in the spring. 2 hours before the flight while getting the girls dressed he told me he thought it was a bad idea to move me away from my family. What could I do? I went thinking maybe he was having a stress moment or something. As we talked later in the UK he said it was over and he sent me and the girls back home to the states to our home which is empty and had not leased yet. He is now seeing someone that his first wife suggested he look up while in the UK, lovely eh? Yesterday he told me that she was coming over for the weekend and will be staying in our bed in our home. I know it's over but isn't that just cruel? I cannot stop crying and thinking about what they are doing in what was our home. It's just too much too soon. He also has asked me to file but tells me all the time that he is financially strapped at the same time telling me is seeing someone new and flies to see her and is obviously spending money to court her. I am sick with devastation, can you help me? Oh, and one of our children is disabled and I have not worked since their birth so have no money on my own, only what he wires each month.

Yes. Of course you can tell your children - LEGALLY. Have you filed for divorce yet?... The situation isn't perfectly clear to me, so I apologize. You and your family were moving to the UK and then somewhere in there, you separated and went back to the States with your two children?... And he is still there, still working and you're in your old home.