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but abuse happens to other people, not me

i found this online and simply had to post it here.  we've all read many posts from members wondering if they have been abused. d360 offers information, articles and phone numbers for abuse hotline.  when i saw this list, i felt compelled to repost it here.  the link/attribution is at the bottom.

 

if you think you are suffering from abuse, please get out, get help and get safe.

 

if you think you know of someone suffering from abuse, please reach out to them and help, help, help and keep helping.

 

Did You Know?............

 

Child abuse is reported on an average of every 10 seconds and 3 children die every day as a result of such abuse.

 

Domestic violence is the #1 cause of birth defects accordingto the March of Dimes.

 

67% of  abusers also abuse their children.

 

30% of all murders are women being killed by their partners

 

1 in every 3 women is a victim of domestic violenceat some time in their life.

 

Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to womenage 15 to 44.

 

In 87% of violent homes, children witness the battering.

 

15 - 25% of pregnant women are battered.

 

Up to 50% of all homeless women in the country are fleeing from domestic violence.

 

75% of emergency room visits by battered women occur after they have been separated.

 

A Woman is beaten every 9 seconds in the U.S

 

According to the U.S Dept. of Justice almost 54% of all men experienced physical assult as a child at the hands of an adult caretaker.

 

About 2,000 of America's infants and young children die each year due to domestic violence.

 

1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused by age 16 31% of sexual abuse victims under the age of 6 are male.

 

from: http://www.ffadv.org/


by paula1   6988 Posts 
Posted on 11/5/2008 1:33 PM
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i know i was dealing with a man who sexually abused me and emotionally , and verbally, . he hurt me for 15 years, or should i say i let him hurt me. i still feel that its all my fault because i could never please him. as much as i tried it was never good enough.

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by cherbear   1273 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2008 10:05 PM
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My stbxw, kept telling the kids I walked into a door.  I tried to explain that people don't walk into any room face first.  Kids should never have to see this stuff no matter who is the abuser.  If I knew now what I am learning now all that I now am mentally are now going through would have been over so long ago, guess it goes to show that when I was warned to get out, I should have.  The physical I survived, but now, this mental game that I have to go through is tougher and last longer than any bruise I ever had.
by Jamesalone   827 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2008 9:57 PM
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I have felt like it hasn't been enough abuse to really do anything about it...it wasn't in front of the kids, it wasn't so bad, I'm not injured.  It was scary and awful and shocking, but not enough to cause me to do what needs to be done.  I am learning that those kinds of thoughts are ridiculous and that I do not have to live with this, and although I'm not there yet, I believe I will emerge from this better able to help others through their pain.  I have to hold onto that hope.  And I have to be braver than I ever thought I could, as in call the cops the next time, as in really file for divorce.  Leap to the unknown.
by ryn   4 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2008 9:44 PM
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Ive been emotionally and sometimes physically abused by my husband for 20 years.

Everyone I know minimalizes what has been happening to me Including myself
I still only really feel like Im abused when he's activelly loosing it
It is my isolated hell

he actually calls his momand brother and sisters during his rampages to complain about me and mu afullness

I wish I was a writer I would have such material

but its not funny and Im tired of being tuff
Im just a little 105lb woman
to the extent they wont help me
by freeme   252 Posts
Posted on 12/4/2008 10:35 AM
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Mental abuse is also a major problem.  My ex used to say I imagined it.Susa
by susa   13 Posts
Posted on 11/8/2008 7:27 PM
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i don't know those stats childless, but i'm sure you're right about them being pretty high.
by paula1   6988 Posts
Posted on 11/6/2008 3:45 PM
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I notice you mentioned something today about the children of abusers being abusers.  Any stats on what percentage of abusers grew up abused?  75%?   90%?  I bet it's at the high end.  There's a difference bewteen excuses and reasons -- it's a reason, but not an excuse in this case I guess...
by childless   551 Posts
Posted on 11/6/2008 3:44 PM
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