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Is he still cheating?

My husband had an affair about 6 months ago. I found out by looking at his text messages. there was a text to this girl about them sleeping together. So I confronted him and we split for a few days. I realized I wanted to work threw it. He promised to stop talking to her and that is was over. But over the last 6 months I have found out they have talked a few times, He put a lock on his phone for a while, until I threw a fit about it. Now he just deletes everything as they come in. He gets off work at 4 everyday and sometimes he doesn't get home till real late. And I am not aloud to ask him where he has been. On weekends he never lets me go out with him anymore. When we do go out together we come right home after the bar but when he goes out by himself he doesn't come home till anywhere for 4 to 8 in the morning because he went to an after party. When I ask him why we don't go to after parties together he says its an African thing ( He is from Kenya) So what I am asking here is does it sound like he is still cheating, and what do I do?

by Maina   6 Posts 
Posted on 12/21/2007 1:56 PM
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Thank you for your advice. We have tried the counseling thing, but he doesn't believe in that kind of stuff so we went one time and he said he would never go back. So there goes that idea. And giving him more freedom, well I have been and that just showed him that he can keep acting that way. At this point I have let him know that if this is the way he is going to act I will not stick around.
by Maina   6 Posts
Posted on 12/26/2007 2:36 PM
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It sounds like there are some serious trust issues. You don't trust him, because he's cheated, and he's doing things that reinforce your lack of trust. I'm not sure if he's cheating, but I'm not sure if that's the most important thing here. He's acting in ways that you find deceitful. Even if he isn't cheating, you have questions in your heart. I would recommend you two see a counselor. Somebody who can help you find trust, and give him some freedom. It sounds like you need freedom too. From what you've said, your relationship seems lopsided, and it really needs some balance if it's going to work. We're all here for you to talk to, and I'll pray that you find that peace and love your relationship needs.
by Robert-Boyd   3885 Posts
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