what are my rights?

But remember that he moved out, so you needed to change the locks because you dont know if he will come in and take everything or that someone else would get a hold of the keys. express this to the landlord. which is true. I dont think what you heard about changing the locks are true as long as the landlord has a set you should be just fine. Desparate times calls for deaperate measures. Or if you tell your landlord that you would like the locks to be changed they will do that for you, i mean i changed the locks on a apartmemt when i lived in one and it wasnt a problem. Good luck.

but someone told me if his name is on the lease i cant change the locks. is this true?

Change the locks! Make sure he understands that he can come and get this things and dont entertain him when he wants to start arguing, take your son outside or anything so he doesnt have to see him packing his things, or if you have relative or something make sure someone is there with you, sometimes people are less argumentive when there are other people around. My soon to be ex thought that he could come and go when he wanted to, but i put my foot down, and belive me ,my children were glad to see him go. your ex is just unhappy and he wants to come in and disrupt your environment, talk with your landlord and explain the situation so you would know your rights. because if you think about it, your ex is giving up the property by leaving. sort of like breaking the lease. But you are taking it over with just your name on it, get it???? Hope this helps.

Try and talk calmy to your husband. If he is moving out again on his own this is a good thing. You sound like you have your sons best interest so try and keep things civil with you and your ex. Let him know you do not want to fight and try and keep him calm during the moving out process. Do not let him back in another time if this is for sure what you want. Check with you landlord and see if you can sign a new liease. Your son will be o.k. with you helping him feel loved. Your son might be relieved to not have your husband's anger in his life everyday.