How to spot a player?

Its just a date. Dinner and drinks perhaps? No big deal...just have fun and enjoy yourself.  You will figure out what his intentions are (if he has any at all) while you are on the date and you can go from there. Have fun and be safe

My advice would be to have the date and enjoy yourself. Think about it afterwards. Does he ask you if he can give you a kiss at the end of the night or does he just assume it is his right? Does a kiss even come up?  Does he try to get to know you at all or does he just talk about himself? Keep it lighthearted for now and just see how it goes. I don't know the first thing about dating and my ideas are probably way out of date anyway so I don't know how much help this is, but there it is....

i say he's a player.  if he was 20 years ago...and is still out there dating your friend and her friend and now you.....well.....i say he's just a 20 year older player now.

There's no harm in having a date or two.  It's good to go out and have a good time.  You'll be able to pick up on the signs blue mentioned when your out.  blue's also right about the research before the date. 

 

Just have some fun!!

Well, calling him a player before the first date won't help...make your determinations and evaluations during the date.  His conduct will probably tell you.  If he's too polished and suave...probably a good sign, but then he just might be a very confident person.  The worst thing anyone can do is start getting references and gossip BEFORE the first date.  First impressions are important and if you start doing background checks before you even go out with the guy, it will influence you and cause you to second guess yourself. 

Get the dirt and gossip AFTER the first date.  That way you can try to match your gut feeling to what other people are saying, but if you go in thinking, "He dates so many women, am I just going to be another conquest for him?"  You will read into everything he says to try to validate the fears you have.  Not a good idea.  Now, if you feel like there's something not quite right initially, and you get confirmation and validation afterwards, that would be better.

Just my two cents.

Take it one step at a time. Go out and have a good time, dinner, movie or something that you enjoy.  Listen closely to his thoughts and what he has to say. You probably won't know if he's changed or not until you get to know him a bit better.  Have fun.

Just have fun!  :)