How do you keep from being jaded??

Make sure your lawyer knows all about this and is fighting for you and the kids.  With regards to child support, I know it doesn't add up to much at all when you are taking care of 3 kids.  I have 2 kids and only get $188.00 per week in support which doesn't pay for crap nowadays with everything going up in price!!  They have a calculation on support and look at both your incomes when they judge it, they don't care about expenses only income.  Your lawyer needs to fight for you and I was told that if you don't agree on dividing property from the house, that property in the house is split 50/50, at least in my state I know it probably differs state to state, but that's where I live.  So you have the right to getting 50% out of that house.  I heard to that if you move out and your name is on the house, that he needs to buy you out of your part, so you should look into that to.  He's not going to get out of this high and dry - trust me.  Once it's in court in front of the judge he's not going to get out of this okay.  I would think that if there is neglect/abuse case against him with regards to the kids that he would have to have supervised visits with them for awhile.  I used to work for juvenile court and that's how we handled those cases.  So you might want to check into that also.  You also have to look at what you have not what you don't have, because you don't have an abusive relationship anymore and you got out before he really hurt you physically or mentally!!  I know it sucks right now and you feel jaded and all, just make sure your lawyer is protecting your rights and your kids rights as well.  Good luck to you.  I hope everything works out for you!

I try to count my blessings. Look at what I do have and not what I don't. I took a huge cut  in money when I left. Because I hadn't worked in years I do get enough alimony to live on for now.

I look at the things I still have and also the things I no longer have to put up with. The drinking, the girlfriends, he was gone all the time, the isolation being married to my ex. All of that is gone.

I now have my farm, my horses, my heath and the freedom to make a new life for myself.  

It sounds like he wasn't a very nice person. You are getting out of that bad relationship and taking your kids with you. He hasn't got everything yet. You are still on temp. orders until all of this gets sorted thru. I know it's hard but there are blessings to this. Start looking at the positive and you won't feed so jaded.
Take care and good luck

Not sure its possible, emotions run too high in these situations.  Just try and remember to keep your cool when dealing with lawyers, judges, etc.  remember u get more flys with honey then vinegar.  The tides can turn,  how is your lawyer?  I made the mistake of keeping a mild manner, butt kisser,  who would have been ok if the divorce would have went thru when my ex was representing himself and being cooperative, but after he got a more aggressive lawyer, I should have gotten someone else.  Hang in there,  all of it just being settled and you knowing exactly what u do and dont have will help u get your new life started.