living together after divorce

Me and my stbx are still living at home together , not because i want to , but because we haven't got an agreement in place. Its been almost 5 months and its very hard to live like this. I am the one who filed for divorce because my wife started pushing me away and i asked her if divorce was the only option i had and she told me that it was, I love my wife still , but she started to go out right before she started pushing me away, now she spends the night over at friends or other men (who really knows this is not the first time she has done this ,this is the reason i filed because i saw the same pattern)we have 4 kids 3 girls 8, 10, 13, and a 16  year old son and they are always asking wer is mom, a few days ago she went to vegas for the weekend and it made me feel so sad i could not take it. So I would not suggest you divorce and live together, funny thing is me and my wife get along really well , she says she doesn't have a problem with me being ther so why is she divorcing me. If i could leave i would not because i don't want to be with her , but because it hurts so much to love some one who could care less about you.

Sorry to be a little blundt here but why bother getting divorced. If you can actually work it out and be in the same house - perhaps your marriage can be worked on. (call me hopeless for wanting marriage to prevail)

I wouldn't be able to watch him go through the single dating scene, etc while living under the same roof.

Don't you think what's best for the kids is the truth? Depending upon their age, how much of the truth but gosh, why are mom and dad living in separate parts of the house? Why is mom going out with ______, why is dad going out with ______??? This would be completely uncomfortable for me.
Good luck with your decision - are you sure there isn't a way for you to work out your marriage - I mean if you are willing to reside in the same house?

We have been living together since deciding on divorce last January -- due to the fact that the housing market sucks and the fact that we at least need to get what we paid for the house out of it to be able to buy anything else.  He has been staying at his gal pals apt. and I finally told him to get out --- he has to pay the mortgage and taxes but he can leave any time.  It hasn't been easy --- he is nice to me on the phone but at home he tsks me and sighs like I'm some piece of sh**.  Just a jerk -- our kids are grown but 18 year old is still at home so it keeps the arguing short.  But he loves flaunting his gal pal at me and I just found out she is probably pregnant which he isn't denying.  So if he needs to go before the house sells then he knows the terms but that baby is going to be born out of wedlock and his mother will go ballistic since she has blamed me for the breach here.  It can be done but it will also take a toll on you.

I know of someone who was going to do that but am unsure of how it went. They were going to until the kids were 18. I know he is remarried now ..but that is all.
I say what ever works! If you can handle it and so can he then go for it! You may have problems though, make sure you have a 2nd plan of action.

I think it would be very hard to live in the same house. Initially, my stbx moved out and I stayed at our house (it has been on the market for a year, with us splitting all expenses 50/50). The house never sold and he decided he would move in and assume all the expenses. I moved out last week and just in  weeks time, I feel so much better being in my own place. He doesn't have a key, he can't just walk in, I set up everything just the way I wanted it and it is such a great feeling. Do what you can to restart your own life on your own terms - you will never be able to do that if you are still in the same house and especially not if both of you are still there.