When you Find out your Spouse is Bi-Sexual....

If your spouse is willing to go to a counselor , then it means that he also wants to work it out and to be with you. You should just wait and let the counseling go and see what happens.

We both are very out going people so I don't think I ever suspected it. He had even made refrence to gays making him sick. So I guess a part of me was really shocked. Lets be honest I was very shocked!!! I found out on my own, we have a joint email account (that I never check) and I saw an email to our account with the same email address but different user (like ....@hotmail.com and ....@yahoo.com) So with a little bit of snooping I uncovered the password and had access to this email account that I just found and it was like hitting the jackpot! Then when I question him he told me everything. We have been very open about this since findinf out and we talk at lenghts about it as well. We are going for marriage help next week. NO! I will not allow him to see other people! At times I think he wasn't to make it work adn at other times I'm not so sure! (I asked him when he was going to tell me about this and the other person and he said after the baby was born! He said he was not sure

that is difficult to learn. did you have any hints about it before? does he want to make it work too? would you be okay with him seeing other people? did he confess this to you or did you find out some other way?