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Moving on..................BUT HELP!!!

I don't want to drag out my story but here's the short version. My husband and I were married for a SHORT time. He's in the service and I moved myself and my two boys across country to be with him. We litterally had just gotten settled in our CA home and my husband decided to put his hands on me during a heated discussion. I was pregnant. I immediately called the police and we was arrested. I got a restraining order. I had intended filing for a divorce however I was unable to pay legal fees etc. and my priority was to move back home to VA to be near family and have a support system since I had a restraining order against my husband. The incident occured in Feb I was about 5 weeks or so pregnant. I found out that in April (while still married and not even LEGALLY divorced) that he had found someone else and she was too expecting. I moved back to VA and had our daughter, four months later his son was born.

Our divorce was final May of this year and in June (2 weeks later to be exact) he and his ADULTRESS were married. Now I don't really care about that, I'm OVER him and I wish them nothing but happiness, I know that KARMA will get them in the end.

 

Here's my question, during the ENTIRE time I was married up until my divorce, I wore my rings, I lived my life as I was married, afterall, I was. In reading my divorce decree and child awardings I see that I am not allowed to cohabit with someone..........I've started seeing someone and we aren't talking about living together I want to know if anyone knows the legalities of this, like what were to happen if I have a boyfriend sleep over and POTENTIALLY move in. Can I get in trouble for this?? I really feel that my ex would try pushing this issue in court and I want to know what my legal right regarding this is for the sake of avoiding the situation all together.

 

has anyone else encountered this before??

 

I don't really see how a judge would tell me not to cohabit when he was obviously co habbiting all along with someone during our marriage but I don't want to jeopardize ANYTHING at all regarding my children.


by mama_2three   2 Posts 
Posted on 10/28/2008 9:20 AM
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I am in Virginia, too and the overnight thing was a big "no" from my attorney. Like mtnvly said, someone can be around your children just not overnight. I am guessing he is still on California??? The laws may be more liberal there for him.
by littleDJ   68 Posts
Posted on 10/29/2008 9:10 AM
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WOW really???? HMMMMM thanks so much for your reply, something DEFINATELY to look into!!!
by mama_2three   2 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2008 10:24 AM
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I speak from experience here...don't have him overnight while your child is there. VA is strict with the overnight visit ...it is called the morality clause...and if your ex wants to raise cain..he can. Regardless of his living with his now wife. If he had your child overnight while livig with her then you would have a leg to stand on.
So I have been there and done that...they are strict here..I am in VA also.Just send your daughter to a sitter...she can be around him but not overnight.
by mtnvly   2541 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2008 9:59 AM
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