Father needs help!!

If things are that bad with her mentally, then perhaps you should sue for full-time custody? DON'T WAIT to get divorced "for the kids" They need to grow up in a healthy, stable environment. At least if you get divorced, you alone will be able to give that to them at least half the time.

You might need to listen to your therapist. Your kids will be happy in a happier home. Maybe your wife will get the help she needs if you are not around and the kids are only around 1/2 the time. I know this is hard but you do not need to live this way.

postive influence on them which they need. I know this will be difficult around the Holidays but the kids need to feel warm and safe in their home and not worried about when the next fight will break out or mom will get angry. Keep me posted on what happens. Hang in there.

You sound like a wonderful person and dad. As much as I do not want to see you move out it sounds like you have tried counseling and things are not better. you need to do what is best for your children. They know more about what is going on than you think. In my opinion I do not believe in staying together for the kids. I want to give my kids a wonderful, loving example of what marriage is really about. If your kids only seeig you guys fighting, not loving towards one another then this will be a cycle of what their marriages will be like. If mom has anger issues, the kids do not need to be exposed to this. They will probably have anger issues if they do not already. If you and your wife are not in love anymore and have tried to make it work, I would think you should try and trial seperation to see if you two can be happy again. As to the custody issue, she will have to "cooperate" since the court will decide. you sound like you are very involved in your kids life and are a po