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I think she is cheating on me...

I think my wife may be cheating on me with a friend of our 16 year old. His friend is 17, and has been living with us off and on for awhile now. Recently (the past 2-3 weeks), every time she would leave the house to run errands, and even when she would take my daughter to cheer, or kids to football practice, he would go with her. Last weekend my wife dropped me and the younger kids off at my 9yr old sons football game. She was then taking the 16 year old, and I thought his friend, to a friends house, and then she was going to go to the store and pick up some food for lunch for the game. She never showed up during the entire game. We waited for 30 minutes after the game before she showed up, she said the store was busy, etc (this was about 3 hours after she dropped us off). She is gone for hours on end with this kid. I confronted her about it and all hell broke lose, she said she did not love me like she used to, etc, and that she was not sleeping with him, but if she wanted to that was her business etc. She says she needs her space, etc. To me, it sounds like she is trying to justify her actions, I am so lost and devastated right now.
by lonelyguyinkc   5 Posts 
Posted on 10/27/2008 12:02 AM
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by lisa5   17 Posts
Posted on 11/1/2008 2:25 PM
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Just her response tells me she is not guilt free. Everyone had good advice, I would take it.
by militaryp   575 Posts
Posted on 10/29/2008 10:12 PM
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Plus, I am sure this kids parents are going to be confronting her for dure....And I agree, this is going to effect your son also.....Do some checking up, and time to have a talk with her if she likes it or not...Once this gets out into your community, it will gefinatly effect your kids....What a *%^&^%$ of a mother!
by __STRIKER__   664 Posts
Posted on 10/28/2008 7:35 AM
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The 17-year old probably THINKS he's living in some unbelieveable fantasy world.  But in the end it's kind of borderline child abuse by your wife, I'm afraid.  There is no way he escapes without some problem -- he hasn't been allowed a normal sexual development, and he will have different expectations of women now.  If he's insecure, he will have already developed feelings for her an it will be crushing to him when she drops him like a hot potato.

I think you need to do something about it, and soon too.  How old is she?  BlueB mentions consent age -- check what that is in MO.  In my state, there's a sliding scale -- the 'age of consent' increases to 18 if the other party is more than a certian number of years older, say 5-7 years I think?  I'm not saying turn her in, but...

And she has the nerve to say it's not your business...WOW
by childless   551 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2008 11:49 AM
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This is so wrong on so many levels.  First, the damage this will cause your kids.  Second, the damage it will cost that 17 year old boy.  I am so sorry you are going through this.  You really need to sit down with your wife and explain the consequences. I think she might be lost in lust and doesn't see beyond that.  Good luck. 
by SuYin   355 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2008 11:35 AM
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It depends on the state...in MI, the age of consent is 16.  I would look into that first, but if he's 17, which is what I read in the post, then it may not matter as far as criminal charges go.

Wait, let me get this straight...your wife tells you that if she was sleeping with someone, it's none of your business???  Are you effing kidding me???  I'm so sorry that this happened to you.  You are probably right about the affair, but if you're going to get a divorce, you need to find out something first...whether you're in a fault state or a no-fault state.  If you are in a fault state, you will want to obtain proof of this affair...suspicions don't count in a court of law...you need evidence.  The best way is to hire a PI, though checking her computer and phone isn't a bad way to go either.  If you live in a no fault state, then proof of the affair isn't going to do much in the way of a divorce...it might give you a slightly higher settlement.  Maybe if you can prove she gave him gifts or paid for a hotel room, you can hit her with misappropriation of the marital funds, but again, you need proof.

I'm soooo sorry this is happening to you.  I wish you luck in all this.
by BlueB   1182 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2008 11:32 AM
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I agree with striker on this one, this should be watched very closely, Good Luck !
by veryclueless   34 Posts
Posted on 10/27/2008 11:19 AM