Did your ex husband stay with his (younger) affair partner?

Well, to be honest. I think the fact that she is younger is actually quite comical. He is 43. I am 37, she just turned 26 last month and our daughter will be 17 next month. Did I mention she is married as well? Did I mention that both of our children are teenagers and hers are 2 and not even 1 year old yet? Right now he lives with his parents, I can't wait for him to move in with her and find out how often he gets sex then. She is not more attractive or thinner. The opposite in fact. I have morals and she does not. They actually deserve one another really. The part that bothers me out of all of this the most is the fact that he told me (like he thought it would make me think better of her or him) he said he hadn't loved me in 5-7 years and was planning on leaving me anyway once the kids were grown, she just sped up his plans because he fell in love with her. So for  5-7 years, everytime I made love to him, it was just sex for him. Everytime I told him how much I loved him and he said it to me, it was a lie. That is emotional and sexual abuse, something I always said I would never tolerate and it looks like I not only did, I did it for years. Plus he says he wants to be honest with me, well he lied to me for all those years, why decide to be honest now except maybe he enjoys twisting the knife just a little bit more and likes to see me in pain.

My husband wouldn't choose...so I chose for him.  I filed for divorce, and then to add insult to injury...he brought her INTO my house, took OUR kids to her hotel (she was and now is living in CA) and used MY minivan to hall her and the kids around like they were family.  Long story short, he made all these plan w/ her (she was going to move back, they'd get a place together, eventually get married, blah blah ...vomit) and then she suspected something was going on because our divorce wasn't ending.  Well, the same time he was telling her all these things, he was telling me the same things as well (he was really trying, he loved his family...he would DO ANYTHING to correct his wrong...vomit, vomit) In the end, she stayed in CA, and moved on w/ her life after apologizing (yeah...thanks after the trauma and hell my kids and I have thru...hey no problem (vomit) but now he's really kissing *ss because I haven't filed (yet...no money) and he knows VERY well the kind of money he'll be paying and all the things he'll lose.  He already has an ex-wife, i'm the 2nd wife and between the 2 of us, he'll end up paying us 68% of his check.  When things get ugly and he acts like I should just sweep it under the rug, I just respond by saying "hey...you should have really liked that girl and I hope the memories you made are irreplaceable, because once I'm done w/ you...you won't even beable to take a date to McDonalds!!!"  And I don't care one bit!!!  Some days I just believe he reaps what he's sown.  As for the OW, everyone knew at the end of this whole scandal and she ended up having to leave her position and start all over.  Hopefully someday someone will do to herlike they did to me. And hopefully it's when she's pregnant and having a baby 3 days before Christmas!  Then I could bury my anger and hatred.

What are the odds that stay with the younger they have an affair with?

My husband left me for a woman that almost could be young enough to be his daughter...We were talking one night about 3 months prior to his leaving (when the affair was going on and I had no clue). I had been really sick and was feeling very down. I had mentioned to him that there was no way I could compete witha younger woman at my age (50) and he said" theres no need, I am way past that mistake in my life, this is now about whats in the heart at our ages...........
Then BAM ............. I still cannot believe he flat out blatenly lied right to my face! So yes, it does bother me that she was younger....and the first time I met her 2 years ago, I just felt sick in my stomach, something in me just knew she would be trouble.....
Womens intuition is a funny thing!

I was married for 15 years.  He left me for a woman 13 years younger. She left him 3 weeks ago after 3 years.  So proof that they don't always work.  They were engaged. She found another man with $$$, since my ex pays child support.  He has since apologized now that the shoe is on the other foot.  I am not sure which is worse. a marriage ending for infidelity or for abuse issues etc.  It took me 18 months to just be able to talk about what I had gone through without crying.  And most are bewildered when they hear the tale.  It could be a bestseller!  But I think I would have taken it harder if she was close to my age since I am 8 years older than my ex.  Knowing I look damn good for 44.  Most think I am about 10 years younger.  The problem I had was her alienating my son from me. Whom now knows the truth and has seen me for the 1st time in 18 months!!!!  She for some reason was jealous of me!  So 1. They don't always marry the one they cheated with. 2. Younger is better because you still have your self esteem. Because if she was your age or older well then Its bad. And 3. a divorce due to betrayal has deep wounds to lick.   emotional and words hurt deep.   It takes a long time to heal them.  Just my opinion

Well my husband claimed he was inlove with this younger woman. When it all came to light their relationship pretty much ended. That hasn't stopped him from seeing other women. For some they just want out and for others it maybe they really just want the other person more. It really didn't bother me that she was younger. I think it would have bothered me more if she were closer to my age. I guess I just didn't see her as a threat more like he just didn't want to be with me. I do agree it is better to leave the marriage before you betray your partner. The pain is like no other.